12 Questions That Can Help Strengthen Your Relationship

12 Questions That Can Help Strengthen Your Relationship

If you want to strengthen your relationship, it is important that you ask yourself a few introspective questions from time to time.

 

Relationships are important for a happy and fulfilling life. Loving someone with your whole heart and getting that love reciprocated, is one of the best feelings ever. Whether they admit or not, every human wants love in their lives, because having a loving partner gives you happiness like no other.

However, getting into a relationship is kind of easy, but sustaining a happy one is where the real challenge lies. If you want to strengthen your relationship and which will also stand the test of time, you will have to put in a lot of effort. Rather, you will have to put in the effort every day.  Nothing valuable or worthwhile comes easy; you will have to work hard on it.

“Have enough courage to trust love one more time and always one more time.” —Maya Angelou

Once people get past the early romance phase of a relationship, it can start to run on autopilot to an unhealthy degree.

In short, people stop paying quality attention. Both to their partner and to how they themselves are showing up in the relationship.

Fortunately, if you get better at asking the right questions, your relationship will improve rapidly as a result.

The following self-reflective questions, when asked honestly, will 10x the connection in your relationship in a matter of days. Ask yourself these questions, once every few months, and your relationship will always be improving.

 

12 Questions To Drastically Strengthen Your Relationship

1. How am I doing as a partner lately?

The first, and most important step, in this process is to become deeply honest with yourself.

Have you been phoning it in in your relationship as of late? Have you been taking them for granted, even to a small degree? The point here isn’t to wallow in guilt or make yourself overly wrong… it is simply to acknowledge your overall levels of prioritization of your relationship.

Strengthen your relationship

Have you been making a point of loving them in ways that make them feel loved? Touching them lots? Surprising them with dates? Carrying out tasks that make their life easier? Thanking them regularly for ways in which they make your life better? If not, it’s time to turn the trend around.

Your relationship will flourish to the extent that you invest energy into it, and you can only do that after you have gotten honest with yourself about the ways in which you have neglected to do so.

 

2. What do I arbitrarily withhold from my partner in our relationship?

Are there ways in which you withhold your energy from your partner? Either because you feel stretched thin with all of the responsibilities you have in life, or because, sometimes, you secretly feel like punishing them from a place of disowned anger?

Regardless of the root causes, this is something worth looking at.

Do you withhold sex or physical intimacy from your partner? Do you withhold your presence and/or willingness to listen to them talk about their day? Do you withhold financial resources by being the one who controls the cash flow and keeps your partner in the dark?

Whatever things you withhold from your partner, see if you can locate the reasons as to why you do so. And then reflect on whether or not those reasons are actually serving you, and if they might be worth questioning, and shifting to something more productive.

 

3. When was the last time I surprised my partner with something thoughtful?

Every person on the planet has the opposing needs of certainty and variety. In a long-term relationship, your certainty needs are inherently met to a high degree by simply having consistent access to your partner. But our needs for variety can often dwindle the longer we are in partnership (unless both parties are consistently putting energy into mitigating the entropy that can settle into long-term partnership).

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