Building a healthy, lasting, and strong relationship can be a real challenge for most men. Just like in life, sometimes you need to take certain risks in relationships too if you wish to strengthen the connection you share with your partner. It might not be the easiest thing to do, but it will certainly pay off greatly in the end. Here are 5 risks you must take as a man to improve and strengthen your relationship.
“This points out the obvious point that we are not perfect. No one if. Love and strong relationships are when two people deeply care for each other despite these imperfections.”
Better sex, deeper love, and timeless friendships all develop when you take a risk to strengthen your relationships.
The best relationship I’ve ever known is with my wife. It’s one that’s evolved over time and one which continues to evolve. It’s twisting, deepening, questioning, and imprinting me like my own personal ranch brand, searing its pattern into my flesh, bone, and mind.
When I look back over the 23 years of our life together I have a hard time isolating the hard times that we’ve faced. The good memories and quality moments far outweigh the bad.
I’m not saying for a second that we didn’t have our share of the good, bad and ugly and I’m imagining we’ll still face some challenges in the years ahead. What I do know, is that my ability to take a risk with Kathy has been one of the major success stories of our relationship.
- Making a stand when it came to a parenting decision I felt strongly about.
- Letting her know she hurt me with her words or actions.
- Admitting I was wrong.
- Following my path and not hers.
“We don’t develop courage by being happy every day. We develop it by surviving difficult times and challenging adversity.” – Barbara de Angelis
It’s never easy to take a risk.
I’ve been considered a “Risk Taker” by my friends and peers. My lifestyle of adventure and living what appeared to be a life constantly on the edge led them to this conclusion. The fact, however, is that my adventurous pursuits have much less inherent risk than the risks which I’ve taken in my relationships.
In an adventure pursuit, be it Rock Climbing or Mountaineering, the risks are ones that you can prepare for. You gain the skills necessary to proceed with the least amount of risk possible. In a relationship, for the most part, you’re blindly moving forward, dipping your toe into the water to see how warm it is before you fully immerse yourself.
Relationships are much riskier!
“If you risk nothing, then you risk everything.” – Geena Davis
5 Risks Every Man Should Take
Risk – A situation involving exposure to danger
1. Be The Man You’re Meant To Be
Trust your gut and go with what’s right for you.
Everyone out there is going to try and sell you, convince you, change you or sway you to their point of view. It’s natural. The risk men must take in relationships is to be that authentic self. Uncover yourself by staying true to what you know is right and don’t ever be afraid to speak this truth.
If confronted with a decision that makes you feel as if you’re tumbling inside a cement mixer, it’s your gut instinct that you’ll have to learn to listen to. It’s never wrong and we all feel and know the consequences when we don’t follow our guts.
2. Hard Talk
Have you ever walked on fire or witnessed one of these empowerment sessions? The training centers on breaking through or facing a fear(s). One of the techniques that’s sometimes used before stepping onto the fire is the “Arrow Break”. It’s a beautiful visual, experience and tool which can create a powerful sense of confidence for a participant.
Hard Talks can be like the Arrow Break a relationship.
I define Hard Talks as conversations where we come out from behind any veils that might be in front of us. Hard Talks are our reality. Nothing more and nothing less. The good, bad, or ugly with no sugar coating in between.
I believe the key to Hard Talking lies in our ability to gain permission to have the talk in the first place. We’ve all seen or heard movies wherein an emotional scene two star-crossed lovers look into each other’s eyes and say “Promise me you’ll always be honest, promise me you’ll always tell me the truth”. This is the groundwork for gaining permission and the setup for Hard Talks to come.