There are a couple of psychological hacks, backed by strong research that can tremendously help you with your social life.
Human psychology can sometimes be a complex thing to understand. You might often find yourself in situations where you can’t understand how to deal with certain things and situations, which is why you find yourself at a loss for words. At the same time, you can’t read others’ minds and hence decipher what others are thinking and how others might react to something that you are doing, or saying
But the truth is, these seemingly complicated actions are results of chain reactions of certain simple things. If you can understand certain basic problems, the rest of the equations wouldn’t be too tough to handle.
Like language, the mind has its own grammar and own set of rules. There’s a particular pattern. You need to understand this language and apply it to your advantage. This will make you psychologically powerful and it will be then easier for you to communicate with others, and also help you understand people better.
Using powerful mental tools, you can become more socially acceptable, you can do well in interviews and get the best from everything and everyone.
These 16 psychological hacks will help your social life and are also very simple and effective. You should definitely use these for your own benefit!
(1) If you feel nervous, have some chewing gum.
When you are nervous about something, have some chewing gum, and keep on chewing it till the time you can feel the nervousness subsiding. When you chew gum, you basically trick your brain into thinking that you are not nervous at all, and you are completely relaxed.
Your brain exerts a lot more energy when you are panicky and scared compared to when you are relaxed. So, it rationalizes that just because you are doing something else other than the thing that was making you nervous, you are actually not nervous! Because if you were, then you wouldn’t have been chewing gum after all.
(2) Maintain silence after you ask someone a question you want to know the answer to.
When you are talking to someone and you ask them a question, but they seem like they are trying to avoid it, refrain from asking the question again, and stay silent. However, make sure that you maintain eye contact. This will make them feel a bit uncomfortable and pressurized, and in the end, they will end up answering your question whether they like it or not.
This pressure comes from an overwhelming sense of awkwardness and is the key to them blurting out what they originally did not want to tell you. Once the awkward silence starts to set in, chances are they will either try to fill the silence by conversing more or they will elaborate on the stuff they were talking about with you.
(3) When someone is insulting you, make sure that you ignore them.
If you feel someone is ill-treating you or demeaning you, the best policy is to ignore them. Human beings are social beings. They always expect other people to react. Nobody likes talking to a wall. When people try to pull you down, be that wall for them.
They will keep on hurting you or demeaning if and when they will see that they can’t break you, they will eventually get tired and stop. In most cases, they will feel embarrassed and end up accepting their guilt, too.
(4) Your first and last impression matters the most.
How you present yourself initially when you meet someone, and how you end your conversation with them can say a lot about you, and can greatly determine whether they liked you or not. This is because normally in the chronology of events, things that happen first and things that happen last tend to remain in our memories the most, compared to what happened in between.
You can use this trick in a lot of areas where you feel you need to strike a good first impression, like a job interview, impressing someone you love, or an important business meeting. Make sure that your first impression has a strong impact on the others, and once everything is done, leave with a bang!
(5) Remember things by combining them together in a single word or number.
Research says that the human brain has the ability to store only seven pieces of information at a time in their short term memories. Which means every human can handle between five and nine letters or numbers at a time. If you are someone who has more trouble remembering things than other people out there, this can help you a lot.
Simply combine them or chunk them together, especially really long sentences or complicated numbers. Remember VIBGYOR? By combining words and numbers, you are basically retaining them in your mind as a single entity. This makes it easier for you to remember complicated things better.