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What is Paradise Syndrome And How It Makes Us Unhappy In Life

Paradise Syndrome Makes Us Unhappy

Do you have a successful career, a loving partner and your dream life, yet you feel unhappy and empty? Then you might be suffering from paradise syndrome.

What is paradise syndrome?

It is a condition that makes an individual feel unhappy and dissatisfied with themselves even though they have achieved everything they have ever dreamed or hoped for.

However, it is not yet medically recognized by psychologists and doctors as a mental condition. It has been observed that paradise syndrome mostly occurs in people who are highly successful and wealthy. When a successful person feels like they don’t have anything else in life to pursue and achieve, no new challenges to overcome, then tend to feel mental and emotional dissatisfaction.

This may be a result of the narcissistic age we live in currently, believes psychology lecturer Dr. Yong Wah Goh at the University of Southern Queensland. Goh explains “People who have unrealistic high expectations will never be satisfied, their goal post is always changing.

The way the world is now it seems to support the development of the more narcissistic attitude. As we are constantly setting a new benchmark for ourselves, no matter how much we achieve, it is never enough. We are excessively preoccupied with ourselves, our goals and our lives. We can go to great lengths to satisfy ourselves first and foremost. Dr. Goh adds “It’s me, me, me all the time. They’ll do everything to satisfy themselves first.”

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Dr. Yong Wah Goh says “Everyone around them they see as people who will bolster themselves, they don’t like to be around people who make them feel bad. The paradise syndrome is a consequence of having a very high expectation about yourself and not being able to let your mind relax.” According to the Daily Telegraph, Madonna and Victoria Beckham are considered to be prime examples of individuals suffering from paradise syndrome. 

Understanding paradise syndrome

Most of us tend to have a vision about how our life is and how it should be. However, when these two views are different and there is a discrepancy, we feel an urgent need to close the gap and experience satisfaction. This is a type of problem formation as explained in a 1974 study by Watzlawick et al. However, as our mind is geared towards looking for meaning and purpose in everything we do, we can often become disheartened by the realization that there is no purpose to pursue any longer. 

Hence, we can experience paradise syndrome paradise syndrome when we are unable to define ourselves and fail to understand who we are or what we represent. This is especially common in individuals who define their identities by a specific role, like entrepreneurs, business executives, athletes, and even mothers.

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Kim Serafini, author of the book I Am Gr8full For Life, believes this syndrome mostly occurs when we detach ourselves or take some time off from our “roles”. This is a form of leisure sickness. She says “People feel it when they’re supposed to be savouring paradise…but you can’t appreciate the fact that you’re there because you feel like you’ve left you behind, which is your identity.”

However, leisure sickness or paradise syndrome is a controversial topic among experts as it often gets misdiagnosed as stress and anxiety. “But it does exist,” says Serafini. She adds “It exists for people who are really into ego and who are really into doing and not into being. A lot of us are so caught up in who we think we are that we don’t separate our role through the week to who we really are on the weekend.

What is Paradise Syndrome And How It Makes Us Unhappy In Life
What is Paradise Syndrome And How It Makes Us Unhappy In Life
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Theo Harrison

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