The Pain of Being In Love With Someone You Cannot Be With

The Pain of Being In Love With Someone You Cannot Be With

What is the pain of being in love with someone you cannot be with?

Love is a tricky thing. It varies in intensity and in the specificity of emotions. It is sometimes the most beautiful thing in the world and, at other times, it’s the most horrid thing we’ve ever come face-to-face with.

It’s odd how one thing could be the cause of so many contrary feelings. But that’s what makes love so beautiful – it’s the closest thing to perfection that exists in the world, the only thing that can easily and comfortably encompass both good and evil, beautiful and ugly.

The Pain of Being In Love With Someone You Cannot Be With
The Pain of Being In Love With Someone You Cannot Be With

It’s the closest thing to a flawless whole that man has ever claimed to have been part of.

When we think of love, we think of the happy kind of love, the kind that is the beginning of something beautiful – something that breathes life.

There is, however, another kind of love, a much darker and sadder kind of love. It’s the loved one feels when one loves someone he or she can never and will never have.

It’s the kind of love that doesn’t signal the beginning of something beautiful, but rather the end of something that might have been beautiful, but will never amount to anything more than what it is.

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Contrary to popular belief or popular wishful thinking, love doesn’t always end happily. It doesn’t always result in the joining of two people, the fusing of two lives into one.

Sometimes, on rare occasions, it results in the wedging apart of the two who love each other the most. You can love someone with all your soul and never get a chance to be with that person. Even worse, you can know that you love him or her, understanding there is no possibility that the two of you will ever be together.

Some people cannot and will not ever end up together, even if they do love each other. It’s a sad truth, but a truth, nonetheless.

The fact is, love is not enough.

All those fairytales, all those stories, and movies you’ve heard and watched growing up, lied to you. Love is never enough because love is not rational.

You hear that love is irrational all the time, yet you still hear the same people saying that love is enough to keep two people together.

Unfortunately, we live in a world governed by rationality, and while love may be irrational, and we may manage to make it work for some time, the real world always catches up with us and our irrational illusions dissipate into thin air.

Then we are left with reality and reality doesn’t always reason the way lovers do.

Some people don’t work out together. They have habits or beliefs that make it impossible to co-habitate with the person they love. There isn’t a couple out there that loves every little thing about one another.

Sure, they may find certain quirks cute or unique, but they don’t love them; they simply accept them. There are some people who have such habits, tendencies, or thinking patterns that really do make them incompatible with the other person.

The two may love each other fully because remember, love isn’t rational, yet not be able to live and deal with each other forever. This is why relationships require compromise.

You’re not going to love everything about the person you are with, but you love enough about him or her to live with the things you don’t love. Not all people are willing to, or even able to, compromise. Sometimes it just doesn’t work, regardless of what our emotions tell us.

28 thoughts on “The Pain of Being In Love With Someone You Cannot Be With”

  1. The most amazing feeling yet can also become the most devastating. I’ve recently fallen back in love. Scary road to say the least. Other than being the most honest, loyal and caring partner u can be there are no guarantees.. You can open yourself up and bare the darkest skeletons stuffed in the closet and hope that the person understands that life takes some pretty twisted turns and no one is perfect… We’re all learning. It’s like walking a tight rope with nothing to catch u if u fall. Is it worth the risk? I think it is… For without love what is left? ❤️☀️ we need more love in this world ⭐️

  2. Love hurts when you ain’t be with each other physically . It’s sickening sometimes suicidal if not handled properly . So people please chose a right person before falling deeply in love .. It’s never too late to let go when it doesn’t belong to you

  3. Mary Huntington

    Karma has a lot to do with the working out of a relationship. Sometimes a situation is in place and can not be removed until finished and fulfilled, leaving the loving ones to hope for the next time around.

  4. What about two people who love each other but cannot be together because they live in different countries?
    This is happening to me right now.

  5. So this article says we can love 2 person at the same time even after being apart..
    So who will get more priority then the previous lover or the new one with whom he is now??

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