10 Ways Men Can Crack the Code of Their Feelings

Ways Men Can Crack the Code of Their Feelings

5. Feelings are amazing, once you learn how to pay attention to them. Most guys like control panels, whether on cars or computers, that display all kinds of information. Imagine that you have an internal control panel that captures an infinite amount of information with sensitivity and reliability that can’t be managed by the most highly-developed software. Guess what? You already have such a system inside you.

6. You cannot and should not outsource your emotional intelligence to the woman you’re with. It’s a cop-out, and it’s not fair to her. She needs you to figure out who you are and what you feel to help her with her own development—just like you need her to be in charge of herself.

7. You need to have close relationships with men. Stop being afraid to touch a man or be touched by one—not all physical touch need to be sexual in intent. So many guys are so filled with homophobia that they miss the pleasure of physical contact with another man. It feels different than contact with a woman and it’s wonderful. 

8. Learn how to ask another man for help. There are few things more healing than receiving help from a man or giving help to a man. It undoes all those horrible high-school experiences where you were made fun of in the locker room for not doing something right.

9. You need to work and feel productive to feel whole. I don’t believe I have ever met a man who was able to feel good about himself without feeling good about what he did in the world.

Related: 3 Things You Need To Do To Be A Real Man

10. Expressing anger is overrated. Sure, it feels good at the moment, but like a bomb that destroys what had taken years to build, you should seldom (if ever) give in to that urge. Go to the gym instead.

Dr. Gressel can be reached via his website at joshgressel.com.


Written By Josh Gressel
Originally Appeared In Psychology Today

Men can crack the code to their feelings once they realize that this is what they genuinely want to do. These pointers will go a long way in helping men crack the code to their innermost emotions and thoughts, and embrace them fully. Once you are able to do this, you will see how your emotional intelligence undergoes a transformation.

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Josh Gressel, Ph.D.

Josh Gressel, Ph.D., is a clinical psychologist in the San Francisco Bay area and a student of Jewish mysticism. He is the author of Embracing Envy: Finding the Spiritual Treasure in Our Most Shameful Emotion, published in 2014 by University of America Press, and a chapter in an edited book: "Disposable Diapers, Envy, and the Kibbutz: What happens to an emotion-based on comparison in a society based on equality?"(in Envy at Work and in Organizations, Oxford University Press, 2017).View Author posts