How To Keep The Romance Alive In Your Relationship?

Caitlin Cantor LCSW, CST, CGT

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Are you eager to know how to keep the romance alive in your relationship? Here’s a valentine special post revealing the key to sustain intimacy and excitement in the long term.

Even the best relationships require effort to keep romance and excitement alive. Otherwise, you can end up feeling more like roommates than romantic partners. At that point, sex and intimacy die down, excitement dwindles, and people often feel that something is missing in the relationship, despite loving their partners.

You and your partner may enjoy feeling comfortable together. You don’t have to dress up for each other or make any effort to be anything but exact yourselves together. This comfort can feel amazing! It’s important in a relationship to feel comfortable, safe and accepted.

However, it’s also important to believe you need to impress and romance your partner from time to time, and that they should do the same for you. When you foster romance in your relationship, you can stay “in love,” rather than just feeling love for each other. It’s the in-love feelings that will keep you together for the long haul.

5 tips to help keep the romance alive in your relationship, in the long term:

1. Have date nights every week.

Not just in valentines week, but It’s so important to have regular time alone with your partner, away from the kids and stresses, whatever they may be. Spend the money on a babysitter, ask a friend or family member to watch the kids or walk the dog, and go on a date once a week. You need time alone together to create space to slow down and connect without distractions. Also, make sure you put away your cell phones on the date.

Wondering why date nights are important for keeping the romance alive? Read Date Nights: Date Like You Did In The Beginning and the Passion Won’t End

2. Celebrate your relationship every chance you get.

A lot of people are anti-Valentine’s Day, but Valentine’s Day is a great excuse to go all out on romance with your partner. If that’s something you would have done when you were just dating, do it now! If you never did it, there’s no better time to start. If Valentine’s Day just isn’t your thing, make sure you choose other opportunities to wine and dine with each other. This should be done in addition to date nights. If you want your relationship to feel exciting and romantic, be exciting and romantic.

Read What Are Valentine’s Day Blues And How Does It Affect Our Mental Health

3. Hold hands.

This may seem trivial, but holding hands is skin-to-skin contact, and that promotes intimacy. It’s a way to connect physically and can also help promote a relationship that is romantic and not made up of two buddies or roommates.

4. Have sex.

This is one of the best trick about how to keep the romance alive in a marriage. Schedule it if you need to. People often resist scheduling sex, because they believe it “should” be spontaneous, but that’s not a realistic expectation. What do you do regularly in your life that you don’t schedule? Schedule it, anticipate it, look forward to it, and make it fun.

Read: 40+ Heartfelt Valentine’s Day Quotes To Express Your Love

5. Make time for self-care.

This is the last but one of the daily ideas to keep the romance alive in your relationship. Make sure you’re taking care of yourself so that you don’t take your problems out on your partner and your relationship. See a therapist, move your body, meditate, work on strong friendships and community.

Don’t look to your partner to solve your problems or be the sole source of your happiness. Your partner can be an additional source of joy, but if you’re not happy with yourself and your life, you need to do your own work rather than expecting your partner to solve your problems. That’s not a realistic expectation and can put a heavy burden on a partnership.

Every relationship deserves to be nurtured, and it is important that you put in the effort every single day. Trying to keep the romance alive in your relationship goes a long way in ensuring that it lasts forever.

I hope you liked these ideas to keep the romance alive in a relationship.

Have a happy valentine’s day!

If you want to know more about how to keep the romance alive in a marriage, watch this video below:

Written By Caitlin Cantor
Originally Appeared In Psychology Today

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Caitlin Cantor LCSW, CST, CGT

Caitlin Cantor, LCSW, CST, is a licensed psychotherapist, an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist, a Certified Gestalt Therapist and relationship expert. For the past 10 years, she has been helping people with dating concerns, relationship difficulties, sexual dysfunctions and dissatisfaction, low self-esteem, depression and anxiety. She has a private practice in Philadelphia, PA. Caitlin Cantor, LCSW, CST, is a licensed psychotherapist, an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist, a Certified Gestalt Therapist and relationship expert. For the past 10 years, she has been helping people with dating concerns, relationship difficulties, sexual dysfunctions and dissatisfaction, low self-esteem, depression and anxiety. She has a private practice in Philadelphia, PA. After studying psychology and journalism at Lehigh University, she earned her master’s degree in clinical social work from Widener University. She later trained in sex therapy at Council For Relationships, and became an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist. Most recently, she studied and trained at The Gestalt Therapy Training Institute of Philadelphia. She is also a Certified Divorce Mediator.

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