How To Stop Living For The Weekends And Create The Life You Want

stop living for the weekends and create the life you want

Are you living for the weekends? Do you want to create the life you want?
It’s time to recharge your internal batteries and practice self-care.

Did you know that the time it takes to charge an electric car can range from 30 minutes to more than 12 hours? The charging time depends on the size of the battery and the speed of the charging point. Have you ever considered how long it takes to charge your internal battery?

This depends on how regularly you make an effort to keep your battery full. The more important question becomes:

What is your charging point?
Are you plugging into the activities that refuel you from the inside out or drain your battery further?
What is the first thing you do when you wake up?

If you are constantly plugging into your inbox to change yourself, your battery will remain in the red.

As a professional coach and trainer, I hear a consistent story among my clients. Their anxiety levels have gone up; their days are a never-ending to-do list, and the objective is to get through the day. There is no sense of joy and contentment. It is one long grind with a gap on a weekend to sleep a little later and check more emails.

When I dig a little deeper, it turns out no one has made any time for their self-care, hobbies, or the activities that energize them. A typical morning routine consists of coffee and logging onto emails. That’s it. The most common excuses are ‘I am too busy, or I don’t have time’. The truth is that busy is a decision.

I have a client who will drop everything she is doing to arrange a family member’s surprise birthday tea. She will go above and beyond, including a treasure hunt activity for the kids and personalized homemade cupcakes.

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If you can create space for that amount of effort, time isn’t the issue. It’s placing other people’s priorities ahead of your own. There is no sense of guilt using your precious hours on other people because it feels justified. The guilt over investing time in yourself can be overwhelming, and this is what prevents your much-needed recovery time.

Self-care Is Not Selfish.
How To Stop Living For The Weekends And Create The Life You Want

The way to charge your battery most efficiently is to introduce daily acts of kindness that enable you to charge throughout the week consistently. You cannot enter the weekend with your energy tank in reserve, hoping two days will fill your tank and sustain you until next Friday.

Here Are SomeThoughts On How To Navigate Your Week So You Can Charge Your Battery Within Thirty Minutes Or Less:

Consistency + Calendar = Progress

Schedule time in your calendar for the activities that give you an instant boost. Hobbies could include baking, scrapbooking, reading, writing, meditating, journaling, riding, painting, learning a new skill, or creating.

Consistency is the bridge between feeling like you don’t have enough time and making progress on what matters most. Start by scheduling fifteen minutes a day (more is always better, but fifteen is a good start).

consistency is harder when no one is clapping for you.
How To Stop Living For The Weekends And Create The Life You Want

Consistency compounds, so fifteen minutes a day of meditation or reading will build up into a powerful habit. Even five minutes of action is better than twenty-five minutes of thinking about taking action.

If you feel like you have no idea who you are anymore or what will create this charge, ask yourself these questions:

· What are the things that naturally energize you?

· What do you like to learn about?

· What would you do for free?

· What excites you?

· If you had a free afternoon, how would you spend it?

· What things come easily to you?

· What topic could you talk about for hours?

· In a bookstore, what topics do you naturally gravitate towards?

· What kinds of articles do you find yourself drawn to?

· When was the last time you felt energized?

· Whose life are you interested in or envious of?

Now that you have an idea of what will fill your internal energy tank, ask yourself:

· How can you add more of these things into your life?

· What depletes you?

· How can you remove one of these things from your life today?

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Lori Milner

LORI MILNER is the engaging speaker, author, coach and trainer. She is passionate about empowering women and equipping diverse teams with the tools and skills to fulfil their potential in their careers and personal lives. Her full-service consultancy, Beyond the Dress (BTD), helps individuals to build harmony into their personal and professional lives. Lori’s expertise is self-leadership; her focus areas include smart time and goal management, stress management, inter-personal skills, personal branding, mental mastery and leadership – and the result is happier and more productive people. Lori is married and lives in Johannesburg, South Africa with her 2 children. Lori delivered a talk for TEDxLytteltonWomen in December 2018 on the topic of ‘How to Create Micro Wins’.View Author posts