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A New Model to Save Marriages and How to Live It

New Model to Save Marriages

The new model believes in strengthening the relationships between couples in a healthy manner. Here’s how to save the marriage and practice it effectively.

Best-selling author, Don Miguel Ruiz, in his dissertation on Toltec Prophecies speaks of the dawning of a new age, which we are currently experiencing. This new time is to be an antidote to the last fifty years when there has almost been death to marriage. It is a time of cleansing and releasing old, emotional wounds and fear relative to relationships. 

New Model Of Marriage: How To Save Marriage And Live It

In this new period, the conflict around respecting each other’s dreams will dissipate and conditional love (which really isn’t love) will be discharged.  People will recover their sense of responsibility and compassion which will allow both partners to express as 100% him or herself.  

In reading the prophecies, it seemed to me like Ruiz was describing a new rhythm flow where old outdated, traditional models of male-female roles are revamped and fit into current lifestyles. People are more independent and marriage as an institution has gone through a structural change to keep up with the requirements of the times. 

How To Save Marriage And Live It
New Model Of Marriage: How To Save Marriage And Live It

Recently, at a carwash, I met a man who exemplified this new living model. Gyasi brought his kids along as he drove his wife’s car in to be cleaned. He told me that it was his idea to do this. I was curious and wanted to learn more so he told me his story.

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During the pandemic, Gyasi had an epiphany.  I love epiphanies so I dug in to listen.  He and his wife were both working from home, and he was feeling overwhelmed with his work.  At the same time, he kept hearing his wife speak of feeling overwhelmed with everything that needed to be done. That is when it occurred to him that he did not need her to ask him to clean up the kitchen because it was apparent to him that the kitchen needed to be cleaned.

So, he got up from his work and cleaned the kitchen. Then he noticed that they were out of milk and other grocery items, so he made a list of needed groceries and trotted off to the grocery store to restock their stores. This became a theme for him.  He looked around and saw the need and he jumped in to get things done.  

A New Model to Save Marriages and How to Live It
New Model Of Marriage: How To Save Marriage And Live It

I was impressed. It seemed that Gyasi was on to something. The other thing I found to be amazing is that he enjoyed being this person that rose to the occasion, saw what was needed, and got it done. It occurred to me that I was observing this new relationship model that Ruiz predicted.  (To be fair, this idea of doing what needed to be done without prodding has been around a long time, it just hasn’t been the model most couples operate with.) 

In Gyasi case, both individuals worked as equal partners participating in chores without putting the burden on one or the other. Because of their proactive stance, the typical resentment, blame, and angst that tends to chip away at relationships and destroy love was eliminated. So instead of trying to make old traditional patterns work in a new life situation, Gyasi and his wife, Teka-Ann created a prototype that lifts partnership and co-parenting to a happier place.  

A New Model to Save Marriages and How to Live It
Marriage Models: How To Save Your Marriage Effectively
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Jean Walters

Jean Walters, DM, DD, CRT is an author, workshop leader, experienced executive, radio host, and media guest with 40 years of experience specializing in personal and spiritual growth. She has been in private practice since 1980 as a Transformational Coach and Reality Therapist, given over 35,000 Akashic Record readings to people all over the world, and been named Top Psychic in St. Louis for many years. In 2019 she was awarded the Life Time Achievement Award by the Albert Nelson Marquis Whos Who. Walters has written extensively for magazines, media outlets, and columns in major newspapers. She has three books currently available on Amazon.com: Set Yourself Free: Live the Life YOU were meant to Live! – Be Outrageous: Do the Impossible – Others have and you can too! (Live Your Passion) – Dream and the Symbology of Life, Jean Walters-LucyView Author posts