“The secret of attraction is to love yourself”
Treating oneself with due respect & love that comes straight from the heart goes a long way in establishing us as par excellence. Buddha and all other great Masters emphasized on the inner nature to forgive & love our self which will eventually extend to others.
I have been walking this awakening path for some years and even now I have difficulty at times in forgetting, while forgiveness comes easy. When your mind keeps conjuring up the hurt time & again reminding you how miserable you felt, your self-confidence, self-esteem, self-love goes down and you’re kept wondering what did I do wrong?
And we do get hurt a lot, when we think people are not understanding us, are not emotionally involved as much as we are, are manipulative of us and jealous, forgetting that it’s not us that they are harassed with, but their own self.
When we are always thinking in our mind about these negative circumstances and people we tend to attract them and as we feel miserable we attract the same energy in everything, thus our success, dreams & goals seem far away even with all the Law of attraction rituals and energy work we do.
I recently had an experience which helped me in devising this tool. This person has always been a jealous one as she had been frustrated of her life, and doesn’t know how to share respect when others are. I bet you must be having someone like this in your life too, whom you can’t shake off because they come under the imminent “label” of family and relatives, and there I was time & again trying to show from my behavior that one should always be respectful.
I was buying gifts for family and I brought something that I know she’ll use, and she came back at me in a very rude and haughty manner. Immediately my happiness of gifting was marred and I got really hurt, when I should not have been because I could see this person was not happy with herself, but I’m a human like you
After an hour of sulking, I readily sat to forgive as I didn’t want to attract the same kind of people around me, so I forgave readily and even now send her happiness & love. But still my self-doubts came searing up and for 2 whole days of trying to calm my mind I was inspired to write, not that I need some special encouragement as I love writing but this prompt was special.
I connected with my angels and my higher-self first and asked for their assistance, the end product of which is the love letter that I wrote to myself.
“Love yourself, forgive yourself. Be true to yourself. How you treat yourself sets the standard for how others will treat you.”
– Steve Maraboli
Immediately, my energy shifted and I could feel the negativity draining away from me, the hurt and the anger been replaced with lightness, a sense of freedom and joy of being present to enjoy the awareness of each moment. The shifts since then has been profound and now I know there’s nothing to forgive or forget because whatever happened is always for good.