How To Build Your Belief In Yourself

How Build Your Belief In Yourself

Do you believe in yourself, and have ample confidence about who you are? If not, then it is vital that you build your belief in yourself to be truly happy.

How To Build Your Belief In Yourself… and leap the biggest hurdle between the life you have and the life you want.

“Andy” entered my office seeking help for his depression. But after a few therapy sessions, the root of his problems became clear: He had a deep-rooted belief that he wasn’t good enough.

He’d started believing he was inadequate during childhood, and he held onto this belief throughout his life. His assumption that he would never amount to anything led him to be an underachiever. Because he concluded he wasn’t smart enough, talented enough, or motivated enough to do much of anything, he’d created a lifestyle that reinforced those beliefs.

He had worked an entry-level job for years. He didn’t bother to manage his money well because he assumed he’d always live paycheck to paycheck and be deeply in debt. He rarely took the initiative to meet new people. And he never established new goals for himself. His depression was simply a side effect of the lifestyle he’d created.

Much like Andy, many people create lifestyles that reinforce their self-limiting beliefs. But, quite often, those beliefs are inaccurate and unproductive, and they cause people to live a life far beneath their potential.

How You Develop Negative Core Beliefs About Yourself

You develop many of your beliefs about yourself during childhood. Perhaps you grew up always feeling like an outsider. Or maybe you had a parent who was verbally abusive. Those types of experiences could lead you to believe you’re a loser or a failure.

Those types of conclusions will cause you to subconsciously seek evidence that supports your beliefs. Every time you fail a test or get rejected by someone, your negative beliefs will get reinforced.

Whenever you discover evidence to the contrary—like you ace a test or land a promotion—you chalk it up to external factors, like luck. You ignore your accomplishments and magnify your mistakes. That’s just how your brain works when you so wholeheartedly believe something.

Because you believe those things about yourself, however, you won’t recognize that you’re doing this. Instead, you just think your failures and problems serve as more proof that you’re not good enough.

Want to know more about how you can inculcate positive belief in yourself? Read 5 Ways You Can Practice Self-Compassion And Be Kind To Yourself

Your Beliefs Turn Into Self-Fulfilling Prophecies

Just because you believe something about yourself doesn’t make it true. But there’s a good chance that you’ll make it come true in a subconscious manner. What you believe influences the way you interpret events, how you feel, and how you behave. And much of the time, those beliefs turn into self-fulfilling prophecies.

If you believe you can’t handle stress, you’ll be less likely to step outside your comfort zone. Then, because you never practice doing anything scary, you’ll struggle to handle discomfort when it arises.

If you believe you are socially awkward, you’ll be less outgoing. The less you talk to people, the less likely you’ll be to make social connections. The fewer friends you make, the more you’ll believe you’re incapable of forming healthy social connections.

The list of examples could go on and on.

How to Give Up Self-Limiting Beliefs

If you’ve spent 30 years believing you’re a loser, then simply telling yourself, “I’m a winner,” isn’t likely to be helpful. You can’t unlearn deep-rooted core beliefs that easily. Instead, you have to challenge your beliefs by testing them to see if they’re really true.

Conduct a behavioral experiment by challenging your beliefs. If you believe you’re too socially awkward to make friends, ask yourself, “What would I be doing if I were socially savvy?”

Then, use a skill called “acting as if.”‘ Behave as if you are a socially savvy person. That doesn’t mean you need to be a phony; instead, behave in a way that brings out another side of your personality.

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