If you truly want to be successful in life, and most importantly have a good life, then you need to get rid of your yeah buts.
We all know the excuses, right? The ones that arrive when we try and do something new, hard, or scary.
โYeah, but Iโm not readyโฆโ
โYeah, but Iโm not good enoughโฆโ
โYeah, but what if I fail?โ
โYeah, but what if they say no?โ
Yeah but, yeah but, yeah butโฆ
So what?!
Fuck the Yeahbuts.
What if I told you โreadyโ was an illusion, and there is never a perfect time to do something bold, new, or uncertain? What if I told you that fear is an invitation to grow and learn and expand and that youโre just mistaking it for a stop sign on the right path instead of a helping hand leading you towards the promised land of more luck and love and fun than you could ever understand but youโve got to take a moment, gather strength, and take the chance?
Related: How To Be Extraordinary: Top 12 Traits of Successful People
What if I promised you already are and forever will be good enough, that enoughness is a birthright weโre taught to unlearn, not something we ever have to earn? What if โgood enoughโ was simply a choice you make day after day after day? What if your enoughness never actually goes away, but rather hides in plain sight waiting to be noticed and nurtured?
What if I suggested that failure is success with different spelling, a prerequisite for knowledge, a non-existent yet socially acceptable form of avoidance, a figment of your imagination, a wrench in the machine of all that is meant to be, a ghost that turned your heart home into a haunted house? And if you learn something from the experience, how can it ever be a failure?
What if them saying no is one of the best things that ever happens to you? What if we just reframe rejection as โdata collectionโ so we can โgather some evidenceโ to analyze and improve upon for next time? And while weโre at it, what if we reframe success as taking a chance, being vulnerable, and asking for what you want rather than how they respond or what happens next? What if success meant you placed a bet on yourself, that you did something brave? What if success just meant you went for it?
โYeah, but you donโt understandโฆโ
Youโre absolutely right. I donโt understand, and probably never will. But what if we donโt have to fully understand something in order to accept it as true?
Deep down, you already know what you have to do.
The only question that matters is, โWill you?โ
Follow Jeremy Goldberg on Instagram, AKA, Long Distance Love Bombs.
Written By Jeremy Goldberg Originally Appeared In Thought Catalog
Leave a Reply
You must be logged in to post a comment.