People imagine that they can like, love, or accept their bodies, while also repressing their body’s needs, denying it’s signals, and cutting it off from having any agency. And it just doesn’t work that way.
You cannot truly love someone and also control them. (And I don’t know who needs to hear this, but someone else can’t truly love you and also try to control you either. That’s not love.)
You cannot truly feel care for, respect, accept, like, or love your body… while also trying to control it.
So if you want a more positive relationship with your body, you’ll need to learn how to give up control over food and exercise.
This means giving your body a voice: learning to tune in, listen to, believe, and decipher it’s signals to you when it comes to food and movement. It means building trust in your body’s ability to self-regulate in a healthy place for you when it comes to weight, even if that place isn’t where you want it to be. It means giving up diets forever, giving up food rules and limitations, giving up the endless hours of cardio and other body-controlling exercises.
Please don’t misunderstand me: giving up control over your body is not easy.
It’s actually extremely scary, difficult, painful, and time consuming. It takes time and practice and patience and compassion and support.
But giving up control over food and exercise is the way—the only way, in my experience—to build a more positive relationship with your body.
Let me know if you need support in this area, by the way. Learning to let go of control is exactly what I help my private coaching clients do.
Sending you big self-trusting vibes today,
Written by: Jessi Kneeland Originally appeared on: Jessikneeland.com Republished with permission.