Differences Between Loving Your Partner and Being in Love with Them

Differences Between Loving Your Partner and Being in Love with Them

Love is a term that is used very loosely these days. People mix being in love with actually loving someone.

Being in love involves attraction, infatuation, obsession or possession.

We meet someone, we find them attractive, and we spend time with them, hold hands, hug, kiss and develop surface feelings. We crave them when they are not around and get high whenever we spend time with them.

It is due to the fact that our brain releases certain chemicals like dopamine and oxytocin when we are falling in love and getting closer to someone but usually this chemical rush doesn’t last long.

Whereas loving someone is deeper and lasts longer.

When you love someone you want to see them grow, you encourage them to reach their highest version. You take the time and effort to nurture the relationship. It requires commitment. Loving someone means giving love unconditionally without keeping score whereas being in love is based on temporary feelings of attraction and what you can get in return from the other person.

Loving someone is an act which requires extending yourself towards the well being of another.

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This is the major difference between being in love and loving someone.

Here are a few main differences between loving your partner and being in love with them.

1). Being in love can happen involuntarily whereas loving someone is a choice.

“Being in love with someone can stem from infatuation, possessiveness, and obsession. Loving someone, on the other hand, goes beyond the physical presence. You desire to see them grow, you see past their flaws, you see opportunities of building into each other and together; you motivate, encourage and inspire one another.” – Kemi Sogunle, Relationship Expert.

Being in love can happen involuntarily, we might feel attraction or lust towards anyone and start obsessing about them. We meet someone and we feel a rush of certain rush of chemicals in our bodies that trick us into believing that we love this person but this rush doesn’t last long whereas loving someone is not just based on chemical rush, it is a conscious choice that we make where we want to contribute to other person’s growth, we want to see them happy, we motivate them to reach their highest potential and love them without conditions.

2). Loving someone means putting them first

Being in love is focused on what you can get from the other person. You are with someone as long as they are fulfilling your needs but loving someone means putting them first.
It involves extending yourself for the well being of the other person. It is focused on giving unconditionally.

You accept your partner for who he or she truly is without being controlling or judgmental and trying to mold them into any image that you have in your head of how he or she should be.

3). Being in love is based on infatuation and short-lived, loving someone lasts longer

Falling in love can stem from attraction, lust or infatuation.You meet someone, intimate with someone, your brain and body is high on love chemicals and you develop surface level feelings for them and you mistake it for love.

But being in love is generally short-lived as the initial rush doesn’t last longer.

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