Psychology Behind Attention Seeking Behavior in Adults



5. Acting Busy

As mentioned earlier, attention seekers behave as if the world revolves around them. But sometimes, they’ll also use means that are far less direct than the ones they normally employ. One of the best ways is to act busy. Yes, this is a passive way that transmits signals conveying that they’re important as a professional and have no time for people. This is done so that people start to admire their hard work and frequently connect with them as if they’re very important figures in the society. Showing people that you’re engaged and seldom have spare time indirectly lures people, as they start believing in your false status and start being around you to get even a molecule of attention.


Common Reasons Behind Such Behaviors


1. Social Media Usage

We live in an era of social media. A time when the digital platform is booming at an exponential rate. The social media revolution has brought about tremendous changes in the mindset of people. Since social media platforms generate the feeling recognition and fame, it automatically develops the desire for attention. Chronic usage can turn a person form a social animal to a voracious seeker for attention.


2. Childhood Loneliness

Often, children feel emotionally abandoned when their guardians or relatives don’t pay enough attention. It can also happen that a child has been pampered to the extent that they can no longer live without constant attention even after they’ve grown up. These two polar opposite circumstances give rise to the same problem. A chronic hunger for attention. Whether it be abandonment, difficulty in communication or spoiled pampering, it eventually creates an appetite for more and more attention.


3. Peer Pressure

Be it at work or social gatherings, we’re almost always surrounded by peers. Now, these people can influence our subconscious depending on how we position ourselves in front of them. When we find our peers getting more attention than us, we tend to get envious and subconsciously start desiring the same level of attention for ourselves. Prolonged exposure to such emotions creates an addictive instinct that drives us to become a center of attraction.


How does Attention seeking Behavior affect you


1. If you are the Victim – It Creates Psychological Unease

Both in terms of emotion and psyche, there arises a sense of unease when interacting with an attention seeker. The listener might not realize it, but he/she has already been infected by the toxicity emanating from the attention seeker. All of a sudden, you’ll feel used and manipulated in front of an attention seeker. They would take you to and fro form being lured to being neglected. You’ll feel as if you’re drawn close to them whenever they’re in need of attention and then pushed away in the very next moment. This creates psychological unease for the victim.


2. If you are the the attention seeker- Affects Your Energy Level And Social Image

The seekers themselves have to expend a lot of energy to gain the absurd level of attention. This results in emotional exhaustion, often followed by frustration and desperation. This in turn steals all the productivity and precious times which they could have used for better pursuits. Also, people are not fools. Sooner or later, they realise what the seeker is up to, and start talking behind their back. They make fun of him/her and look down upon them, thus tarnishing their social reputation.