Do you love yourself and your soul enough? In order to live a happy, positive and fulfilling life, you need to master the art of self-love.
What helped me shift my mindset?
I have a very different outlook on life lately.
It has been an interesting shift. A shift to loving and accepting myself.
In my past, I was living with the belief that I was not enough. I, as a person, was worthless. I wanted to fit in and be loved. And I was definitely loved. But I didn’t know how to truly love myself so I was never able to fully feel the love of others.
One of the things that were hardest for me to learn was that inherently, as a human being, alive right now, I am worthy.
Of all the possible space in the entire universe, the right number of atoms and elements came together to make me. A conscious being on the planet Earth. What are the odds of that?!
I don’t know if it is God, Fate, Universe, Creator, Soul, Spirit, Intuition, Buddha, or Allah, I think all paths lead to the same thing but whatever you title it we are all blessed to be alive right now.
We are conscious. We have self-control. We have free will, imagination, creativity, speech, thought!
We have a brain that was able to create airplanes, Wi-Fi, Netflix, cars, shovels, the wheel, toilet paper. Our brain, the human brain, made computers. That was all modeled off of what our brain can do.
We have that brain and those thinking abilities inside of us already. That in and of itself puts me in awe of what it possible.
The Balance Struggle
Not only do our physical bodies and our minds amaze me, but I also feel that we have a compass inside of us that points us in the right direction, our spirit.
We were given/born with/have free will. We can decide to do anything right now and do it. Jump up and down, play with your cat, hug your boyfriend, rob a liquor store. There are so many different things that you could decide to do, some being more acceptable than others.
We also have self-control. We were given the ability to do any crazy thing we want but we were also given a voice or guide that nudges us and says, “you sure buddy?” or even just makes you second think, or makes your stomach queasy when you think about it.
That feeling of uneasiness is hard to put your finger on though. I remember feeling like this all the time. Should I do this, should I flip off that awful driver for inconveniencing me by going sooooo slow? No? Oh, too late I just did…oops? (I’m working on my road rage…)
We have to take responsibility for combining free will and self-control and doing what is most beautiful. What comes out of love. If you loved this person unconditionally, how would you treat them?
Importance of Self-Love
It sounds easy. But I have struggled with this! What if you don’t feel like you deserve to be treated that well? You’re probably going to eventually lash out at those who you think are holding you down or making you feel less than. It makes sense, you’re hurt and scared and don’t feel loved and you feel like your back is against a corner, that’s what scared animals do. They fight back.
This is where self-love comes into play. When you start to love yourself and accept your flaws and forgive yourself for the past when you didn’t know better you start to feel love for others more easily. When you can come from love and not judge you start to feel more empathetic and connected with others.
Think about it, who really wants to be around a group of people who are always bringing them down?