How To Find Out If Someone Is Your Soulmate

how to find out if someone is your soulmate

Everyone wants to find their soulmate, and live happily ever after. But how can you know who your soulmate is? How can you find out that the person you are dating, is your true soulmate?

Many people believe that there is a “special person out there waiting for me”, and my job is to find him or her so that we can spend the rest of our lives in bliss.

This is a particularly popular and seductive idea because it suggests that once I’ve located the person of my dreams, the work is over.

It also suggests that there is only one person with whom I am destined to have this special relationship.

On a planet of 7 billion souls, finding that right one is a daunting prospect. Consider instead the possibility that there may be many potential mates with whom it is possible for me to experience a soulful connection, and that the real work is not just about the finding, but also about what happens after we have found each other.

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1. A soulmate is not necessarily somebody with whom it’s always fun to be with or even someone with whom there is an intense attraction. They don’t always fit our picture (physically and otherwise) of our ideal partner, nor do they always make us feel joyful and ecstatic.

2. A soulmate is someone with whom you will discover the depths of what and who is in your soul. This is not always fun or pleasurable. Sometimes it’s challenging. What we see in our soul may not always be easy to fully embrace, but it’s who we are.

3. While a soulmate may not always satisfy all of our desires, they bring into our lives what we need in order to do the inner and interpersonal work that is necessary in order to experience wholeness within ourselves and greater connectivity with others.

4. A soulmate is someone with whom we provide mutual assistance to each other in the process of becoming more conscious and loving human beings.

While the end result is incredibly fulfilling, the process of getting there generally isn’t consistently pleasurable. It includes the recognition of those aspects of our personalities that we have denied or disowned or would prefer to remain unaware of. Consequently, not only is it likely that your soulmate will bring forth some of your least (as well as most) attractive qualities, but you will probably also provoke similar responses in them as well.

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While this may seem more like a prescription for disaster than one for ecstasy, it actually can be the fast track to enlightenment. As anyone who has ever chosen the path of the relationship as a spiritual practice will attest, there is more self-knowledge to be found in committed partnership than there is in a lifetime of meditation.

Not that there’s anything wrong with meditation, or with being in a relationship in order to find companionship, pleasure, and security. But for those who really want to get the biggest bang for their buck, creating a soul mate relationship with a committed partner is the direct path.

While there are vast numbers of people who are potential soulmates, the person that we connect with does matter. If there isn’t an attraction between us, the motivation to strengthen our love and do the work that is necessary to deepen it will be weak. And make no mistake about it; regardless of the intensity of the attraction, we will be tested.

Challenges to our relationship are not only inevitable, but they are necessary in order to strengthen the bond. We do get stronger at the broken places.

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