Why I Am Not Your ‘Almost Relationship’ Kind of Girl

Dating is truly complicated these days, especially when no one wants to talk about their feelings. Everyone is just swiping through dating apps or ghosting someone after texting them. Things get a lot worse when you end up in an ‘almost relationship’.

Wondering what is an almost relationship? An almost relationship is not a regular relationship, but an in-between phase that leaves you with feelings of constant doubt and uncertainty. It’s a situation when you feel like there’s compatibility and chemistry between you and them, they tell you their deepest secret and later show no effort or interest in you.

I once met a great guy, spent time with him, but went through the entire process of wondering if he was going to turn into the real deal, or if I’ll forever be confined to the ‘almost relationship zone’. I know it sucks having to feel like you’ll never be with him, but I know that I have great friends who support me and I’m more than just someone’s girlfriend, especially when he doesn’t know how to appreciate me. So, here I am giving you reasons why I am not your ‘almost relationship’ kind of girl.

I Am Not Your ‘Almost Relationship’ Kind of Girl

1. I’m not the kind of girl who keeps you guessing if I am in a relationship with you.

I never think that I am in the state of being in an ‘almost relationship’ because I speak my mind. I will never act strangely or say that everything is too complicated when everything appears to be fine.

You’ll never find me sugarcoating words or acting as if I don’t care. I’m not the type of person who would not do everything possible to make a relationship work and would never give it half-hearted efforts and then leave. No, I’m not that person. I’m the kind of girl you’ll connect with, the kind of girl you’ll have to work hard for and fight for to have by your side. If I feel that my efforts are not being reciprocated, then I’m out.

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2. You cannot have me with a superficial involvement of your mind and heart.

Yes, I want all of you to me. The feeling of having an entire person just for you is special. And I am always there for those I care about, so being completely there is what I want and the ‘almost’ in a relationship never satisfies me.

For me, “good morning” texts are not dead. I believe in endearments and romantic gestures. For me, commitment is the key to a relationship and if you cannot give me that ‘forever feeling’ then it’s best we part our ways and save ourselves the time and effort.

The almost relationship maybe for those who cannot commit to a relationship fully and have no idea what commitment or love feels or looks like. But, I’m not one of those people. I am not afraid to love. It doesn’t make me feel vulnerable rather I feel strong when I express my love. So as much as I give in a relationship, I intend to receive the same from you.

3. I can never be ‘just there’ in a relationship, I need a guy who feels intensely or tells me what I mean to him.

I don’t want to be treated like a fleeting emotion. I am an entity full of warmth and passion. You can’t tell me that I’m important and the next second your eyes wander around looking for other options. If you want to be with me, you have to be fully present because being with me means being committed. I cannot have a casual relationship. Casual is an easy way out and not satisfying, it only leaves you wanting for more.

I am ready to be on the roller-coaster journey of love. So if you are with me, I’ll appreciate your feelings and spoil you with my love. But you also have to prove your love through your actions.

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But if you are the kind of person who cannot speak how you feel and think that feeling things deep down is all that is needed, then you are wrong. When you can’t speak out what you feel when your actions don’t show commitment or consistency, you are simply present but not actually there. So what becomes of this relationship between you and me? Is it a step towards an ‘almost relationship’? 

4. I cannot be in the half-committed relationship that you wish. And I certainly cannot settle for anything less than I deserve.

If you tell me you are not in a good phase in your life and cannot deal with relationships, then you must let me go. I too have my own set of problems that I deal with every day. I won’t let things slip away thinking you too love me as much as I do.

Don’t text me or say romantic things because words mean nothing to me if you’re not actually putting in the effort. I can’t let you love me half-heartedly. I deserve someone who appreciates me and is not an almost relationship.

If you were to be with me, I would never leave your side and fight for you in every situation. I would love you even when you don’t love yourself. But, if love needs convincing, is it love, or yet an ‘almost relationship’?

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No, I’m not an ‘almost relationship’ type of girl. Not even close.

You fear that dating me will end your freedom, in fact, you will be free as you have never before. I would have challenged you to overcome difficulties and make you get the best out of your talents. I would inspire you to climb new heights of success. But here I am moving away from something that is less than what I deserve because I am not your ‘almost relationship’ kind of girl.