How To Not Get Attached To Someone In An Almost Relationship

Are You getting attached to someone in an almost relationship?

My heart wasn’t supposed to break from an almost lover. But it did. And god, it hurt like hell. – Katrien Pauwels

An almost relationship will always feel like you are halfway there. Such a relationship is like juggling with your emotions  – you feel like you are neither totally in nor completely out. At some point in time, you might even catch feelings yet you know you are not supposed to. How half-hearted is that do you think? 

Almost a relationship is a tight-rope walk. Striking the ideal balance between indifference and consideration is not as easy as it looks like. 

Nevertheless, almost all relationships are fun. There are no strings attached, no responsibilities to take, no broken expectations, no commitment. You both are rocking the party, chatting over the phone, having fun, traveling together, going to dinner dates and all these topped with great sex. You both are not stopping at anything. These sums up to all the sunshine of a relationship sans the rain and thunder.

And the flipside? There is not one that I can think of. 

But wait, What if you fall in love? What if you realize you are the only one who unknowingly got serious about the relationship? 

What if confronting the other person, makes him/her leave you?

If you are considering having fun and being carefree about your relationship, these 6 rules will help you not get attached.

6 Tips To Not Get Attached To Someone In An Almost Relationship:

Rule 1# Set your relationship boundaries well.

At the very beginning of the relationship, you must make it clear to each other about how you want everything to materialize. Whether the issue is big or small you must clearly communicate to your partner about what your limits are and what consequences await once the limits are crossed.

Relationship boundaries may seem unnecessary, especially when you are aiming at a short-lived, temporary connection. 

To start with, let your partner know what’s in your mind, what your value system is, who you are like, what pushes your buttons, what makes you click, what you detest, what your needs and desires are. 

On the same page, consider understanding the needs of your partner and reach a middle ground. Set rules and limits, keeping both of your satiation point in mind. 

A fused sense of entity is not healthy for any kind of relationship. A lack of healthy boundaries in your relationship takes away the sense of self-esteem, self-control, and independence. 

 

Rule 2# Learn to say “NO”.

Learning-to-say-no

What keeps us from saying “no” to questions we desperately want to answer “no” to, is the fear of being disapproved. 

Make sure you do not comply with your partner’s needs, which goes beyond your boundaries. Saying “No” to things you believe is beyond your capacity to commit to, is a wise decision. It is better than taking responsibility and failing to accomplish it. 

Learning to say “no” means you are sticking to your boundaries in the relationship rather than making it permeable to unnecessary changes. 

 

Rule 3# Regulate your expectations.

one-sided-expectations

What exactly do you expect from this almost there a relationship?

If you are not aiming to commit to each other, you should not even behave like you are intimately committed to the relationship. 

If you have decided upon your boundaries well, you should strictly stick to it. If you are allowed to flirt with other people, go for dates with them, or kiss other people. 

If you both have decided to be okay with it, then you should not be jealous of it when this happens on the other side. State clearly in a conversation about what you expect from the relationship. One cannot swing between being serious and fun from moment to moment. This will only distract your intention. 

Shreyasi Debnath
An editor and writer keeping keen interest in painting, creative writing and reading. I did my Masters in Clinical and Counselling Psychology and have been a counselling psychologist at a primary school for the past 1 year. I love doing absolutely anything that mends a mind and soothes a soul. Most often than not, I ponder over to come up with poems. A wandering soul in search for meaning.

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