Men seem like such strange creatures at times. They don’t seem to have the same kind of hint-picking-radar, for starters, that all women seem to be born with, and neither do they have a verbal expressing medium to speak what they think — what they really think. Most times, I guess, it is nice because then they let the females call the shots, but at times, it can get really frustrating when it comes to the bigger things in life.
Like, for example, how serious is he about the relationship?
Well, worry not for we have a few signs that you can look out for yourself and know for once where you stand with him.
1. The Obvious One: He’ll Tell You
For all the talk of men not being expressive, this is one thing you can count on — they will tell you what you mean to them if you are the One. Males might be ingrained by the society to never show vulnerability or wear their hearts on their sleeves, but they will never be able to keep in their feelings about you for long — lest some other man takes you away.
2. You’ll be prioritized
You will know your significance just by what position you hold in his life. He’ll not just listen to you, he’ll pay attention. He won’t just hang out with you, he’ll plan an outing with the excitement of a school-girl. He’ll not just chat with you, he’ll be willing to sit down and talk. You will know you are valued because your presence will be valued and so will your opinions be. He will take you seriously because he is serious about you.
Prioritizing should not be confused with dropping everything on hand and rushing to your whims and fancies — that’s actually unhealthy. Giving importance and giving space, quite surprisingly, go very hand in hand.
3. He’ll make it obvious by making his actions count
As they say, it is the little things. Things like him texting you — not just while being drunk or insomniac, but even when sober and alive with life. He’ll send you cutesy texts or gifs just because he remembered you — or because he wants to make you smile. He won’t be shy to claim your hand and declare that he is committed and with you. You’ll find yourself being treated to his dose of care when you are least expecting it and find him fishing for your smiles whenever he can. He’ll also be prepared to take things slow if that is the pace you have set because he knows it’s what you want and he knows he has the whole long run to wait for you.
4. He’ll listen to you like you have a say — because you do
If he is serious about you, you will find yourself let in on a lot of private-sounding decisions or thought-processes that don’t necessarily feel like they have anything to do with you. But he’ll talk to you and really consider your opinion if you have any — without making you feel stupid about it or shooting it down harshly. You will feel like an equal partner and you will be aware of him including you in his life’s important decisions. More because he believes you will be around in the long run and hence, by extension, it affects you enough for you to have a say in it.
5. He’ll ask you questions — and you will find yourself being candid effortlessly
Only a person invested in you will take the efforts of asking you about yourself. Not to be confused with the routine formal questions — but real, deep questions. Questions that he genuinely wants to ask about you. For some, it might be a novel experience, because when was the last time you had a guy making you recollect a fond childhood memory for him or asking about your passions and interests just because he is curious? Your man will seriously start taking an interest to the whole you-you, and in return, you will find yourself being non-hesitant in sharing. You wouldn’t feel the need to think twice before opening up or typing and retyping an answer because you cannot seem to find the right way to say it.