Understanding whether a man has genuine feelings for you and wants a future with you or not can be perplexing at times. Sometimes he might seem like he is totally smitten with you, and the very next moment he might pull back. What actually goes on in a man’s mind, only he knows.
But the good news is that men are not as complicated as they are made out to be. You just have to notice carefully, what they are trying to tell you and show you. They might not always be expressive, but their actions and behaviors will definitely give you many hints about their thoughts and feelings. You just have to look.
Here Are 9 Signs He Is Totally Smitten With You
1. He will always tell you.
For all the talk of men not being expressive, this is one thing you can count on — they will tell you what you mean to them if you are The One. Men might be ingrained by society to never show vulnerability or wear their hearts on their sleeves, but they will never be able to keep in their feelings about you for long — lest some other man takes you away.
So, if a man genuinely likes you and is smitten by you, then this is the best sign. He will always be transparent and honest about his feelings for you, and won’t ever back down from his words.
2. You’ll be prioritized.
You will know your significance just by what position you hold in his life. He’ll not just listen to you, he’ll pay attention. He won’t just hang out with you, he’ll plan an outing with a lot of excitement. He’ll not just chat with you, he’ll be willing to sit down and talk. You will know you are valued and that he is smitten with you when your presence will be valued and so will your opinions. He will take you seriously because he is serious about you.
Prioritizing should not be confused with dropping everything on hand and rushing to your whims and fancies — that’s actually unhealthy. Giving importance and giving space, quite surprisingly, go very hand in hand.
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3. He’ll make it obvious by making his actions count.
As they say, it is the little things. Things like him texting you — not just while being drunk or when he is not being able to sleep, but even when he is sober and completely fine. He will send you cutesy texts or gifs just because he misses you — or because he wants to make you smile. He won’t be shy to hold your hand and declare that he is taken and you are the one for him.
You’ll find yourself being treated to his caring and loving nature when you are least expecting it and find him fishing for your smiles whenever he can. He’ll also be prepared to take things slow if that is the pace you have set because he knows it’s what you want and he knows he can wait his whole life for you.
4. He’ll listen to you like you have a say — because you do.
If he is serious about you, he will always ask for your opinion because your thoughts and opinions matter to him a lot. He will ask for your advice even when it’s not related to you or the relationship. He will talk to you and really consider your opinion if you have any — without making you feel stupid about it or shooting it down harshly.
You will feel like an equal partner and you will be aware of him including you in his life’s important decisions. More because he believes you will be around in the long run and hence, by extension, what you say and think matters a lot.
5. He’ll ask you questions — and you will find yourself being candid effortlessly.
Only when someone is smitten with you will make efforts of asking you about yourself. He will ask you deep questions so that he will be able to know you from every perspective. Questions that he genuinely wants to ask about you. For some, it might be a novel experience, because when was the last time you had a guy making you recollect a fond childhood memory for him or asking about your passions and interests just because he is curious?
Your man will seriously start taking an interest in the whole you-you, and in return, you will find yourself being non-hesitant in sharing. You will feel seen, heard, and understood. And most importantly, you will know that you have finally found the man of your dreams.
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6. You know his close ones— and they know you too.
Another big giveaway is how his friends and family treat you and how you feel with them. If he is serious about you, you will not have just met his mains, you will know them. You’ll find yourself being included in his groups and hangouts as if you were one of them. You might even hear them tell you funny stories about your man because they will want to share it with you and witness your reaction to their friend/family member first hand.
His friends and family will know you very well too, because he has talked about you so much to them. The first time you meet them, you won’t feel out of place, you will feel at home.
7. He’ll try to know your squad.
Guys tend to be more hesitant than girls in meeting their partner’s friends. It is a well-known secret that girls will tell everything of importance to their friends — and naturally, every guy knows his deeds have been relayed to these strangers as soon as they had occurred.
Understandably, you can imagine how much you mean to your man when he agrees to try to know your mains — or even better, knows them as well as you know his. He will genuinely make an effort to be friends with them because he knows how important they are for you.
8. You find yourselves talking about the future as a ‘when’ and not an ‘if’.
This is it. The big one.
The fear of commitment has to be long gone by this time for your man to have reached this stage at all. Most men don’t make plans that fall farther than a week or two. You can pick up on his commitment if you find the two of you setting dates aside for getaways months from now or movies/concerts a year or so later. That’s a sign your man is planning on sticking around and not worried about letting you know the same.
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9. You will always be able to trust him.
Trust is one of the most important requirements of a happy and healthy relationship. If you cannot trust your partner, then your relationship is doomed. You know that your man is smitten by you when he never gives you an opportunity to doubt him and his actions. He always keeps you in the loop and never leaves you guessing.
He never hides anything from you, and always tells you where he is and with who. He doesn’t do this for the sake of doing it, he truly wants you to be comfortable and trusting in the relationship.
If your man shows all these signs, then know that he is truly smitten with you and you have struck gold. Love him, hold him tight and never ever let him go!
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