4 Pieces of Relationship Advice You Should Ignore

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When it comes to love, everyone has something to say about it. But there are some relationship advice, myths, and misconceptions you should definitely ignore if you want to be happy in your relationship.

If you want to find lasting love, ignore these clichรฉs.

Letโ€™s face it: Romantic relationships occupy a lot of prime real estate in most peopleโ€™s lives. And rightfully so! A great majority of us long for stable, fulfilling relationships with a partner we can share our lives with.

So why does the quest to find a true lifeโ€™s companion seem like Mission Impossible for so many? We think it has a lot to do with basic misconceptions that weโ€™ve learned to associate with relationships.

Itโ€™s high time that we debunk these relationships myths and misconceptions and expose the illogical thinking behind them.

The next time you hit a bump in the relationship roadway (or maybe experienced a real crash-and-burn defeat), steer away from these four pieces of misguided advice. Otherwise, you may end up down another dead-end street.

Here Are 4 Pieces of Relationship Advice You Should Ignore

Relationship Myth #1: Opposites Attract.

Think about this: If youโ€™re a natural introvert, why would you chose a partner whoโ€™s the life of the party and always wants to be in the limelight? Or, if youโ€™re outdoorsy and prefer the natural settings over the manmade environments, why would you go out with someone who prefers wandering through malls more than remote trails?

Looking for someone whose preferences and lifestyle are 180-degrees the opposite of yours is a recipe for disaster. Do you sincerely think you can build a harmonious, lifelong relationship with someone you have next to no compatibility with? Whatโ€™s more likely is that, once the infatuation is over, those opposite tendencies will turn out to be exactly what makes the relationship fail.

Instead, as you search for your soul mate, your odds for success will be higher if you seek out someone with similar qualities and common interests.

Related: How and Why Opposites Attract In Relationships According to Astrology

Relationship Myth #2: Love At First Sight.

Weโ€™ve seen this so frequently on the silver screen that we like to refer to it as the โ€œHollywood Syndrome.โ€ You meet up with a friend who excitedly shares how the guy she just met is the one. She gushes about how โ€œthe instant I saw him, it was love at first sight.โ€ Then she goes on to describe how their eyes met across the room, how they were drawn to each other, and how the sparks flew for the rest of the night.

Then, sure enough, a few weeks later when you meet up again, she either tells you itโ€™s over or that theyโ€™ve taken their foot off the accelerator.

Okay, letโ€™s be clear here. Weโ€™re not saying that love, at first sight, canโ€™t ever work. We believe in connection, and chemistry, and all the alarms that go off when youโ€™re attracted to someone. But, at some point early in the relationship, youโ€™ll still need to assess what you truly value in a companion. Youโ€™ll need to listen to what your inner voice is telling you. What you see isnโ€™t always what you get. The bottom line is, youโ€™ll have to do the work if you want the relationship to last.

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Relationship Myth #3: Sex By The Third Date Is The New Normal.

Nowadays itโ€™s hard to know just what the expectation is around sex. Some expect it on the first date; some think each party should know by the third date if thereโ€™s a connection, and act on it. Frankly, thereโ€™s no such thing as a set timeline for having sexual encounters.

Never feel pressured by what others say is the โ€œnormalโ€ timeframe. Itโ€™s your own decision, based on what feels right for you. And, itโ€™s important to remember that anything of value is worth waiting for. Keep in mind that whatever a relationship is built upon determines how well it holds up. In other words, if you build a strong foundation based on friendship, respect, and trust, youโ€™ll know if the structure will crumble or hold up when you weigh sex.

Related: 6 Pieces of Relationship Advice For Married Couples

Relationship Myth #4: Itโ€™s Better To Get Back On That Horse.

Weโ€™ve all lived through scenes like this at least once in our lives: Youโ€™re getting a haircut, and the guy in the chair next to you is spilling his guts about the girl who just dumped him. (Yes! Men talk about their relationships at the salon, too!) Meanwhile, the barber is listening and carrying on with his haircut until someone blurts out, โ€œYouโ€™d better get back on that horse right away.โ€ We hear this advice so often that itโ€™s become like doctrine. But we stand to differ.

Every romantic setback is an opportunity for a life-changing comeback. But this can only happen when you take time to step back and truly examine who you are, what you bring to a relationship, and, importantly, what you truly want.


Written by Diane and Mario Cloutier
Originally appeared in The Goodmen Project
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