When it comes to love, everyone has something to say about it. But there are some relationship advice, myths, and misconceptions you should definitely ignore if you want to be happy in your relationship.
If you want to find lasting love, ignore these clichés.
Let’s face it: Romantic relationships occupy a lot of prime real estate in most people’s lives. And rightfully so! A great majority of us long for stable, fulfilling relationships with a partner we can share our lives with.
So why does the quest to find a true life’s companion seem like Mission Impossible for so many? We think it has a lot to do with basic misconceptions that we’ve learned to associate with relationships.
It’s high time that we debunk these relationships myths and misconceptions and expose the illogical thinking behind them.
The next time you hit a bump in the relationship roadway (or maybe experienced a real crash-and-burn defeat), steer away from these four pieces of misguided advice. Otherwise, you may end up down another dead-end street.
Here Are 4 Pieces of Relationship Advice You Should Ignore
Relationship Myth #1: Opposites Attract.
Think about this: If you’re a natural introvert, why would you chose a partner who’s the life of the party and always wants to be in the limelight? Or, if you’re outdoorsy and prefer the natural settings over the manmade environments, why would you go out with someone who prefers wandering through malls more than remote trails?
Looking for someone whose preferences and lifestyle are 180-degrees the opposite of yours is a recipe for disaster. Do you sincerely think you can build a harmonious, lifelong relationship with someone you have next to no compatibility with? What’s more likely is that, once the infatuation is over, those opposite tendencies will turn out to be exactly what makes the relationship fail.
Instead, as you search for your soul mate, your odds for success will be higher if you seek out someone with similar qualities and common interests.
Relationship Myth #2: Love At First Sight.
We’ve seen this so frequently on the silver screen that we like to refer to it as the “Hollywood Syndrome.” You meet up with a friend who excitedly shares how the guy she just met is the one. She gushes about how “the instant I saw him, it was love at first sight.” Then she goes on to describe how their eyes met across the room, how they were drawn to each other, and how the sparks flew for the rest of the night.
Then, sure enough, a few weeks later when you meet up again, she either tells you it’s over or that they’ve taken their foot off the accelerator.
Okay, let’s be clear here. We’re not saying that love, at first sight, can’t ever work. We believe in connection, and chemistry, and all the alarms that go off when you’re attracted to someone. But, at some point early in the relationship, you’ll still need to assess what you truly value in a companion. You’ll need to listen to what your inner voice is telling you. What you see isn’t always what you get. The bottom line is, you’ll have to do the work if you want the relationship to last.