4 Ways To Bring Your Man Emotionally Closer To You

Create a deep, emotional bond with him and keep him from wandering.

Emotional intimacy is the main component of a relationship that keeps a man invested long-term. Most older women can’t compete with 25-year-olds and 30-somethings sauntering through their husbands’ workspaces in miniskirts.

But the wise older wives have something much more significant than toned bodies and flawless skin: they have years’ worth of happy marital memories, which have enhanced their ability to keep their men coming home every night emotionally fulfilled.

Here are four ways to create a deep emotional connection with a man and keep him from ever wandering, temporarily or permanently.

4 Ways To Bring Your Man Emotionally Closer To You

1.  Open up to him.

Your man has to feel comfortable confiding in you. In a world where most men feel they have to act tough just to make it through the day at work or survive a night of beer and football with the guys, they really need a place where they can be vulnerable.

As a woman, you should be the one who creates that vulnerability, inviting space for him. You should create a place for him to take off his “man mask” and just be himself. We all know that men are not like women in the way we talk at length about our problems and speak directly about our feelings, but they do need an outlet for their built-up stress and negative feelings.

A woman who can create that outlet is essential to her man’s happiness and emotional health. So how do you become a safe place for your man? You make him YOUR safe place first. This includes two steps:

  • You risk vulnerability with him and share with him your feelings, secrets, fears. Basically, you reveal your underbelly to him.
  • You allow him to comfort you in these moments like he is your hero.

Receiving a man’s comfort is important. Surrendering to his hugs, kisses, and soothing words is essential. And even more essential is accepting his comfort graciously and with sensitivity to his ego, even if it doesn’t feel comforting. Once you start revealing your underbelly to him and allowing him to comfort you, he will start to open up about his feelings, fears, secrets, needs, and more.

Let him. Don’t talk over him or try to fix his problems by acting like his therapist. Don’t half-listen because your sister’s on the other line. Be mindful, and in a way that invites him to feel safe and heard in your presence.

 

2.  Never fight dirty.

Now that your man has opened up and shared parts of himself with you, guess what happens with a lot of women? They take these revelations and throw them back in their men’s faces in moments of heated argument.

  • “That’s why your boss thinks you’re weak!”
  • “No wonder you are afraid of feeling like a failure!”
  • “Maybe you are acting like that because your father was abusive, like you told me he was.”

When we women see red, we want to win a fight and feel like our feelings are valid. But all your feelings are valid. Nothing he says or does is going to negate your feelings. You are entitled to them, and that’s all you need to know. If you want your man to hear your feelings, see your hurt, and understand your pain, speak to him like he is someone you hear, see, and understand.

This will create an emotional connection with a man and will bring him emotionally close to you. He will realize that you are able to honor his person and his feelings, despite your own negative feelings. He will then start doing the same for you.

That’s how healthy men work. They want nothing more than to hold your feelings, even when you are upset. They just don’t want to get burned for it.

If you can bring your feelings about him to him in a safe environment that invites closeness and positive change, he will break his back trying to honor your feelings and wishes, even if he has to make sacrifices for your happiness. He really wants to take care of your emotional needs.

 

3.  Show him you adore him.

Some women are naturally open with their physical affection. They touch and caress their man (or everyone they know) lovingly, tenderly, warmly. These women are goddesses.

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