The word clingy does have a negative connotation to it, right?
Well, I have heard so many friends of mine constantly rant about how clingy their girl-friend is and how uncomfortable this ‘clingy-ness’ makes them in public and what not!
I feel like everyone treats clingy to be a bad thing.
But what if I tell you that being clingy is not bad? Actually, some clingy behavior can be a sign that she is going to be with you forever.
You are laughing at me, aren’t you?
Well, don’t. Because here is a list of clingy things that prove that you have found your ‘forever’ kind of a girl:
1)She wants to know where the relationship is going:
We always think of this as clingy because modern relationships are not that secure any longer. Most of us don’t even know where our relationship is headed to.
So, if your girl is talking about or hinting at a ‘future’, she is a keeper because this means that she is committed and loyal and is in the relationship because of a purpose and just not for fun only.
2)She wants to stay in touch:
If she constantly messages you and wants to know what you are doing and where you are going, don’t think she is trying to harm your privacy or something.
She is just trying to maintain a good communication rapport as she wants to be with you and she worries about your well-being.
3)She wants some respect from you:
She won’t let you get away with bad behavior. She wants to be respected and taken care of. You cannot easily take her for granted.
You may think that she is high maintenance but remember that all the great girls are!
4)She likes it when you are around her:
She wants you to be around her, all the time if that is possible. She likes your presence and this basically shows that she adores you totally.
Don’t think that she is trying to occupy your life or something; she is just trying to be around you as much as possible.
5)She doesn’t maintain a physical distance from you:
She likes to casually hold your hand and walk. Or just randomly keep her head on your shoulder and rest. This is not PDA for her.
Her physical attraction towards you is almost organic. It is as if she cannot stop herself from touching you and feeling your presence.
6)She shows you off on social media:
Oh! Come on. She isn’t clingy if she is showing you off on social media. It is her way of telling the world that she has found someone special.
In other words, she knows where she belongs and wishes to show that she is sure about her feelings for you.
7)She wants to know things about you:
If she wants to know all the little details of your life, how is that bad? She just wants to know you better so that she can be in your life.
Also, this means that she wants to understand you so that she can provide for you and fulfill your needs. If she won’t know what you like, how will she satisfy you?
8)Her time is yours:
If her world moves around you, don’t make the mistake of thinking that she is desperate or dependent on you. It is just that she has worked but she arranges her day in order to be with you.
To me, that is not clingy, that is in fact, so very thoughtful.
9)She enquires about your family:
If she talks about your family and enquires about them, this means that she is interested in meeting them someday.
It is not that she is forcing or influencing you to make her meet your family; she just wants to be approved by your family as well.
Yes, all that she is looking for is some approval of the relationship by your family because she wants to be with you.
10)She gets jealous and uncomfortable about other women around you:
We often think that jealousy comes from an insecure place. So we assume that if someone is jealous, they are insecure about the relationship.