10 True Gifts of Love That Make Your Relationship Last Forever

You can shower these true gifts of love to make your relationship last forever.

In the magical uncertainty of new romance, every couple creates their own unique emotional language of devotion. Sometimes those treasured connections deepen over time and the relationship becomes a long-term commitment. But too often those wonderful beginnings don’t last.

For the four decades of my therapeutic career, I have listened to the sorrows of many committed partners struggling to regain what they have lost.

They have shared their discouragement and confusion watching their initial hopes fade and seemingly unanswerable questions replace them.

How can we have given everything we could to our partners and yet have failed to keep our love alive?

Why didn’t our total commitment to each other keep us together?

What was missing in the way we treated each other?

Is there anything we could have done differently?

Can we do anything now to turn things around?

Having dealt with hundreds of these discouraged but still hopeful couples over many years, I have been able to help them refocus in a new way, giving them the answers they seek.

I ask them to bring the following ten true gifts of love into their present relationship and watch those changes create new hope.

 

The 10 True Gifts of Love

1) Supporting Your Partner’s Perspective even When it is not Yours

One of the most important experiences for all human beings is to believe that what they see, feel, and hear, is both validated and supported by those who matter to them. It is the absolute core of mental and emotional stability.

When couples have disagreements, it is all too common for them to impose their personal beliefs upon the other. Most people do not realize how desperately they fight to hold on to their own sense of reality, even if it means simultaneously erasing the other partners.

When couples fully accept that two true but different realities can exist side by side, they feel less need to deny what is real for the other.

Instead, they search for a greater truth to encompass both of their realities, or they agree to disagree. True love does not allow one person’s truth to erase the others.

2) Emergency Responsiveness

When either partner in a love relationship puts out a true SOS, the other is fully committed to help and support their highest priority.

Love deepens when both partners know that, in times of distress, they can absolutely trust that the other will be there, in heart, mind, and action.

As the complications of all relationships evolve, it is far too easy for people to take each other for granted, to let other priorities take precedence, or too ease to assume that calls for help are either not important, will lessen, or will be handled by someone else.

3) The Forgiveness Haven

No matter how committed anyone is to quality behavior, he or she is bound to make mistakes from time to time. Those moments are deeply fragile and vulnerable for everyone.

When intimate partners know they have a safe place in the other’s heart, they are better able to learn from their mistakes.

No partner should be expected to be perfect in their capacity to tolerate actions that hurt, but openness to why or how the other “slips” should always come first when love pervades.

4) Respecting Each Other’s Inner Worlds

After intimate partners have been together for a while, they affect each other in more and more ways. Those mutual responses show up in several ways.

Sometimes they react to experiences that come directly from what is happening between them in the relationship. At other times, something that happens between them triggers memories from the past and may have little to do with their current relationship. Most often, it is a combination of the two.

When a current interaction activates a prior memory, especially one that is unresolved or traumatic, either partner may think that the reaction is about him or her, when it is not.

That interaction creates an interpersonal conflict when it should not.  If people experiencing that triggered response understand that it is not coming from their current relationship, they can resolve it more successfully.

Dr. Randi Guntherhttp://www.randigunther.com/
In her 40-year-career as a clinical psychologist and marriage counselor, She Had Spent Over 100,000 face-to-face hours with singles and couples helping them to sort out their desires and conflicts about intimate relationships. She Had explored all the reasons why their relationships so often start out euphoric only to crumble and how they can turn those disappointments into future successes. She truly believe that the greatest obstacles standing between you and the love you want is often right before your eyes but you are unable to envision the journey. Her specialty is to help you look at yourself and your relationships with heroic honesty and the willingness to look deeply at yourself and what you bring to a relationship so that you can finally create the kind of transformation that will change you forever. You'll finally understand why you've struggled in love, and what skills you'll need to create the kind of relationship you've always wanted - one in which you fall deeper in love while simultaneously scaling the heights of your individual potential. It's how her husband and She have made their marriage their bedrock for over 60 years. Subscribe to her free advice newsletter at www.heroiclove.com where she'll tell you everything she has learned about finding and keeping a truly heroic relationship.
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