9. I will always feel this way
Typical emotions are essentially transient. What comes up often comes down. As Socrates remarked, “The hottest love has the coldest end.” A typical emotional response involves a quick rise lasting for a few minutes and then followed by relatively slow decay.
For example, anger usually lasts for more than a few minutes, but rarely more than a few hours. However, people tend to mispredict the short duration of emotional response. For example, in a romantic breakup, the heartbroken people are unable to anticipate the decay of their emotions.
One of the reasons for adolescents’ high risk for suicide is because when they feel pain, they lack the life experience to know it is temporary. After a while, the change becomes a normal and stable situation.
10. My moods are hard to reverse
A wide variety of studies demonstrated that adopting facial expressions of emotion leads to corresponding emotional feelings. This is known as “fake it till you make it.”
An expression of pride produces determination. Projecting pride motivates people to try harder in problem-solving.
We feel sad if we sit in a slumped posture or talk in a slow and low voice.
For anger management, Buddhism advises us that we should force ourselves to relax our face, soften our voice, our internal state will soon come to resemble our external state, and our anger will dissipate.
It’s reported that the late fashion designer Oscar de la Renta believed in beauty, not for beauty’s sake, but because he understood that elevating the outside could help elevate the inside.
The take-away lesson is if we look into our emotional lives with the idea that our emotions are forces beyond our control that happen to us, we are inclined to accept bad behavior that otherwise might be controlled. And by taking responsibility we will no longer feel like the victim of our own emotions.
If you want to know more about the common myths about emotions, then you might like this video below: