To the man who believed ‘thinking’ was enough
“That’s when I finally got it. I finally understood. It wasn’t the thought that counted. It was the actual execution that mattered, the showing up for somebody. The intent behind it wasn’t enough. Not for me. Not anymore. It wasn’t enough to know that deep down, he loved me. You had to actually say it to somebody, show them you cared. And he just didn’t. Not enough.” ― Jenny Han
It is important to think but that alone will not count.
You love her, and deep down somewhere inside you, it is there. Thinking is just enough, you thought.
There is a long list of things that validated what you thought. You thought it was just not your style to speak too much. You used it as the excuse and let your pride, your fears, your ego, your weaknesses stop you from appreciating her. You stopped making any effort, fighting your inner demons that held you back.
You rely so much on your thoughts. But have you ever thought who else will you appreciate in your life, if not her?
Spend time with her, shower her with your love and take her with you on the roller coaster called life. Introduce her to new and wonderful things, take her to the places she has always wanted to go, dance with her, sing with her and kiss her a thousand times. Make her feel special. Tell her not only with words but also with you acts that she is the ‘one’ and she will always be the ‘one’—who has your heart.
You and only you know why she is so special. She made you a better individual and loves you for all you are. She alleviates your fears, removes your insecurities and kisses you when you are feeling down. The warmth of her love keeps you cozy even in the midst of turbulence. She knows you inside out and loves those little inefficiencies of yours which you show only to her.
You know well in your heart, you can’t give yourself to anyone else and no one else will love you back like that. No one can make love to you that fervently as she does. This girl in your life you need to appreciate.
If you are lucky enough to have that kind of love in your life, stop looking around. Stop wandering in search of other options. Stop being easy.
Don’t be casual with her. Fight. Put your best efforts to keep her in your life. You know, she is in your heart, and that is magic. You are entwined in a way that no one knows or loves you better. For her, you too are the miracle that happens once in a lifetime. If you think, there could be someone better; it’s your ego that holds you from accepting that love which has actually happened to you.
There is so much you have to put in to be in this relationship. This girl has her own views, her individuality, and doesn’t agree always. She challenges you continuously to rise from mediocrity and doesn’t let you take things easy with your life. She has dreams to build a future with you.
But, do you want a girl who is easy to be with and doesn’t really care what you do with your life? The easy girl will leave you uninspired and soon an emptiness will set within you and you will crave for more.
Do you fear commitment and appreciation because you feel she will gain your control? On the contrary, being with her will give you feeling of liberty. In fact, it is a new beginning.
Don’t risk losing the best thing you ever had.
Don’t take her for granted. Don’t think she will be there for you always because she loves you. She is a strong woman who is putting all her efforts to be with you. At the same time, she won’t accept it when you don’t try to put your best efforts for a strong relationship and a bright future. She knows what she deserves and if you keep taking advantage of her, you will lose her. Somewhere someone will be there who will know her value and will make her his priority.
If you don’t overcome your pride, your fears, your ego, you won’t be able to value her or show her what she means to you. Don’t think of other options and let this ‘once in a lifetime love’ drift away from you.
If you are still in slumber, wake up! Put your best efforts to keep her. Because if you don’t, it will be your loss.