You Don’t Have to Be Rich to Have an Emotionally Wealthy Marriage

3.Talk about stress

One study discovered that the spillover of external stress into the relationship was the single biggest reason why couples relapsed two years after marital therapy.

That’s why the Stress Reducing Conversation is probably the most important conversation a couple can have.

Read 5 Ways Stress Hurts Relationships and What to Do About It


4. Communicate understanding

When your partner makes a complaint, express that you can understand why they’re frustrated. If they’re happy about something that happened at work, share in their excitement.

We feel loved when we feel heard and understood.


5. Be affectionate

Kissing, holding hands, and cuddling are all opportunities to make deposits into your Emotional Bank Account.

The Normal Bar study of more than 70,000 people in 24 countries found that couples who have a great sex life kiss one another passionately for no reason, they cuddle, and they are mindful about turning toward.

If you don’t have a rich Emotional Bank Account, start small by noticing your partner’s bids. Turn towards them. Again and again.

Bid by bid, your interactions will shape your relationship until your Emotional Bank Account represents the wealth of love and respect you have for each other. You can’t put a price on that.

This article was originally published on The Gottman Relationship Blog.
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By Kyle Benson


You Don’t Have to Be Rich to Have an Emotionally Wealthy Marriage

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