Why Your Twin Flame Relationship Had To End-The Good News ?

Why do twin flame relationships have to end and what good or helpful lesson could possibly come out of an experience so painful?

When you meet your twin flame and start a relationship with them, it really feels like that has to be the pinnacle of human experience. And then the relationship ends and your world absolutely falls apart.

When something this traumatic happens to you, it’s quite a normal response to start questioning your faith and the grand design and scheme of things. In fact, there are many stages in life where you think to yourself: what good or lesson could ever come out of an experience like this… and surely I’ve had enough pain in my life?

The universe tends to have a design though, and the lesson of twin flame separation is actually as powerful as a successful twin flame relationship – maybe even a little more so. Let’s start at the beginning though.

 

A Course In Miracles

For many of the spiritual people on the planet, we’ve always known that forgiveness is important in this lifetime. Few books go into the topic as extensively as A Course In Miracles (ACIM).

In a nutshell, what ACIM teaches is that forgiveness is the mechanism by which you release the ego’s hold on you, ego being the thought that we are separate from God. At the same time, you acknowledge that we are all one soul, and that lack of forgiveness held against one is lack of forgiveness held against all.

So basically, how it works is that you forgive those around you and yourself for the separations that cause you pain – separation from people, experiences, money, desires, dreams, hopes. The Course teaches that the only reason these separations cause us pain is that they mimic the original pain of the thought that we are separate from God.

As we forgive each person around us, and we forgive ourselves, we come ever closer to forgiving ourselves for the original thought that we are separate from God, which is known as ego. Ego is the sense of individuation or the awareness of the self, as well as the need to hang on to it.

 

Your Twin Flame Is You

Your twin flame is a part of your own soul, and while coming together and reconciling the dualities within your relationship or yourself is important, the lesson in leaving your twin flame is the lesson of leaving the self (ego) behind.

Twin flame relationships are ultimately about loving and accepting yourself completely, because the dualities and complements your partner will express will be the things you see as the bad sides of you in many cases. In order to reconcile that and make your relationship work, you have to accept and love those bad parts of yourself.

When the relationship ends however, what you are experiencing is the loss of yourself, and it often feels like a loss of your identity, because that’s exactly what it is: the twin flame separation lesson gives you the chance to energetically experience and release the ego or self identity that you have been holding onto.

 

A Higher Spiritual Calling

If you think about it, the fact that this mechanism exists makes perfect sense.

Many of the lightworkers currently on the planet needed to live lives that would ensure they stayed free of material and worldly temptations, and not fall into the trap of ego.

Now, as the shift intensifies and the new order starts to show itself, we need leaders who have mitigated ego, who have overcome the need to hold onto the self and put their individual needs first.

In a way, facing your twin flame separation can therefore be considered a calling of the highest order.

 

It Doesn’t Have To Be Permanent

This is the really good news. Your twin flame separation does not have to permanent.

What you need here is the lesson – you need to accept and surrender and just let go. Accept that it is over and let that settle into your system.

If you’ve experienced the loss and pain deeply already, then there is a global energy moving and I’m seeing a lot of twin flame relationships have major speed bumps, break up or reconcile.

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Chemory Gunkohttp://lifecoachestoolbox.com
The author and creator of the Life Coaches Toolbox, Healer, Life Coach & NLP Practitioner, Chemory Gunko, also known as Amara Christi.She teaches, coaches, mentor, does readings and healings and makes a huge body of work available to spiritual journeys on her site, www.lifecoachestoolbox.com.
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5 COMMENTS

  1. I’ve been reading as much as I can on Twin Flame relationships and this reading here was written very well and it does explain the basics. Most people who have lost a twin flame will recognize this. For myself though, I had about 19 days to deal with her “Runner” phase, and me becoming the “chaser”. I left for a week in between this going 3000 miles away to give her space for the last six days before we moved out of our house. I went to California and the code for crazy in Cali is 5150. I actually manifested things that I didn’t know was possible on both ends, bad and good. Knowing a 6 year chapter was about to end, I literally burnt the entire period down to the ground, making her and I absolute polar opposites. This chapter though began on 12-21-12, so I believe the 11:11 thing was eclipsed many times over. We had first met in 2002 and this was going to be the third break-up we had in 16 years and someone who I will call a friend is always lurking in the background and came to me playing Devil’s Advocate just weeks before the break-up. When I returned to pack up our house and go separate ways, I had 6 days and her Mother who I love to death helped make things go super smooth, and it went far better then I imagined. The girl was and had been under some sort of spell, if not both of us and the only person I spoke to was the “friend” I mentioned above. This was through Facebook messenger and I played out the various scenario’s of what was about to happen and it didn’t end up in a good place, except for the fact that I got it off my chest. I only have myself to blame if a worse case scenario happens, but she is a very smart if not angelic lady, she created the ultimate Twin Flame situation where I have to do me as best as I can. She walked away 11 days ago which feels like an eternity to me, but there has been no contact and won’t be any contact from my end. The pitted, gutted & ultimate pain is difficult but I am a soldier, I decided to man up and do what the universe is expecting me to do with no expectations. I just figured writing this may be a good idea for others going through it.

  2. The romantic relationship may end between Twin Flames, but the entire journey doesn’t end up there! Separation is indeed the best yet at the same time the worst part in the entire Journey! It can be the most painful thing that may ever happen to any spiritual being, yet the PAIN is the catalyst to Higher Spiritual Ascension and Soul Healing as you learn to heal your own self and break your codependency from your twin! It is terribly frustrating but it is in separation where the deepest soul lessons are learnt and they say the least we expect our twin to come back is when we are already whole within ourself. Separation prepares us for a coming reunion and no twins had ever been soulfully separated. Their heart chakras are always connected and will always be (as they sprang from the same soul), whether or not they are still in a romantic relationship. On my own experience I am still separated from my twin and shall we not come into a devastating separation, I wouldn’t have been awakened that we are on a TF Journey!!