It just comes in unwanted waves one after another drowning us in our own deep thoughts and we don’t want to reach for you to save us. We don’t want to seem like a burden. We don’t want you to feel obligated to be here out of guilt. Because we feel guilty enough for putting you through this. And that’s why people with depression are hardest to love.
Loving someone with depression is the anticipation of those days. You’re always waiting for this thing to ruin your best day. It stays hidden lurking in the shadows.
When you love someone with depression you want to help. You hold them in the late hours of the night when they are crying. You tell them to go back to sleep when it’s two am and they are awake.
You are the strength on their weak days and that’s a lot to ask of someone.
So no people with depression aren’t the best to fall in love with because it takes a very rare person to be able to tolerate that and choose to that.
You begin to hate depression because it makes this person you love into someone they aren’t. And you have to keep reminding yourself “this isn’t them it’s depression.” You hate it but you learn to accept it.
And together you begin to just take it one day at a time. You begin to appreciate the good days that are few and far between but make the bad days worth tolerating.
The truth is if you love someone with depression and you can help them through their bad days, you can be the light in the darkness, be the company in states of loneliness in return you will find someone who loves you unconditionally.
You will find someone who will love you so deeply.
You will find someone who will love you so hard it redefines what you thought love meant.
You will find someone who will be loyal to you forever.
You will find someone who will accept the worst parts about you and teach you to love that too.
You’ll find someone who is always grateful for even the little things.
In return, you’ll have someone who will do anything for you and someone who will never stop telling you how much you mean to them. You’ll find someone who always puts effort into you even if it comes in the form of overcompensating.
The truth is if you love someone with depression you’ll realize and appreciate a new sense of beauty to all they are. Because there is something to be said about someone who picks themselves up every time they fall.
There is something to be said about someone who has the ability to channel this negativity in their life into something positive.
There is something to be said about this person who works hard and stays busy and accomplishes a lot simply because that’s what will keep them having “good days.”
There is a strength to people with depression. There is a beauty to them. There is an appreciation for life despite those “bad days” where they question everything. And you’ll watch them handle all of this with as much grace as they can and you’ll love them even more for it.