“That’s when I finally got it. I finally understood. It wasn’t the thought that counted. It was the actual execution that mattered, the showing up for somebody. The intent behind it wasn’t enough. Not for me. Not anymore. It wasn’t enough to know that deep down, he loved me. You had to actually say it to somebody, show them you cared. And he just didn’t. Not enough.” ― Jenny Han
Appreciate her; ‘thinking’ was never enough.
You love her, you know that. Don’t be ashamed to show her how much you care about her. You think caring for her and loving her is enough. But it’s not. Maybe you don’t know how to show love or maybe your pride and ego stop you from making any effort.
Yes, thinking about caring for her and her well-being is a confrontation with your inner self. But have you ever thought that the denial of your expressing love can lead to her thinking that you don’t reciprocate the same feelings?
Pay attention to her, because your time and undivided attention are the greatest, most sincere tokens of your love that you are able to give her.
You rely so much on your thoughts. But have you ever thought about who else will you appreciate in your life, if not her?
Give your partner sincere compliments, it shows that you notice their efforts and how they are special. They may have gone through the entire day or week without being complimented so it is important to show them that they still impress you. As a partner, you have to appreciate their efforts just like she always tried to impress you when she had the chance to do so.
Spend time with her, introduce her to your life. Make her feel special. An emotional bond between two people, regardless of gender, occurs through shared experiences that involve intense, positive emotions. Do something adventurous with her, it shows that you consider her as your first choice to have fun with.
Remember the time when she unconditionally supported you, removed your insecurities, and kissed you when you were feeling down. That’s what makes her so special right? Some fall in love being attached and having a sense of security, whereas some fall in love seeing the uncertainties and building the security. That’s the pure form of love she bestowed on you.
If you are lucky enough to have that kind of love in your life, stop there and stop looking around because you’ve reached your destination.
It’s time you show them how special they are, show your love to them by offering your help. Show your love for your partner by supporting them in their endeavors and dreams. Don’t betray their trust in you by belittling their dreams and goals.
She is the one who is flattered by your gesture of taking interest in what she loves to do. Pay attention to her interests and hobbies and engage yourself in appreciating their works.
Communication is the key
Good communication is one of the major building blocks of a relationship. Healthily expressing emotions can make us feel connected with the people we love. Sharing one’s emotional states allows us to clarify the situation that caused them and it becomes possible to find a constructive solution.
Don’t retain your feelings, talk to her about the conflict you’re going through. Clinging to feelings of disappointment for a long time without giving them away leads to more conflict and more disappointment.