Ways To Beat Holiday Stress
No family is picture-perfect, but you can get pretty darn close.
Family problems can be difficult to manage at any time, but during the holidays, the stress that surrounds them seems to be worse. All around us, we see images of happy families, and there seems to be a social pressure for everyone to live up to these ideal, picture-perfect gatherings of loved ones.
But what happens if your family doesn’t match this expectation? What if you and other members of your family are overcome by holiday stress because everyone doesn’t get along? Or, what if you just feel overwhelmed by all you have to do this time of year?
Beat Holiday Stress And Bring Harmony To Your Family Gatherings
1. Divide your time.
Instead of traveling to multiple family gatherings, make a pact to meet at one location for each holiday and then take turns hosting. One of the most stressful things about the holidays is traveling to and from different family member’s homes.
Traffic and weather conditions can make it dangerous and time-consuming, so you often end up spending more time in your car than with the people you care about. In addition, it’s just a lot of pressure to make sure you see everyone you’re “supposed to.”
Keep things simple and come up with a holiday calendar and then rotate. This year, meet at your Mom’s house for Christmas and then your house for New Year’s. Not only do you save time and the stress of traveling from one house to the other, you take turns on sharing the work of cooking and cleaning up for everyone.
As an added benefit, you don’t consume the calories of holiday meals like you would have if you’d gone to two family functions in the same day.
2. Let go of expectations that everyone will be in a good mood.
As much as you would like everyone to make an effort to get along, realize that at the end of the day, you can only be responsible for yourself and how you react to things. Ideally, when you get together with your loved ones, everyone will have the same motivation to make it a fun and peaceful time; unfortunately, some members of your family may have other issues going on that will get in the way of an ideal family gathering.
Participate with the spirit that you will bring your best to the table, and try as hard as you can to not let the actions and words of others bring you down. If you have a less-than-pleasant relationship with someone, try to keep a polite distance.
Also keep in mind that some people who are unpleasant do so because they are looking for a reaction. If you don’t give them one, they will usually stop bothering you and look for someone else to pick on. If you sense tension in the air, don’t feed into it. Avoid hot-button topics, try to keep alcohol use down to a minimum, and have activities planned — board games or even going out for a walk.
3. Make time for yourself.
In this season of socializing, gifting and hosting, we often get so run down that by the time a family get-together rolls around, we’re exhausted (and quite often cranky). You will be much calmer and happier going into a family gathering if you are well rested.
Be sure to take at least ten minutes a day doing something you enjoy. It doesn’t need to be expensive or complicated, and can be as simple as sneaking off to a quiet place and reading a magazine, meditating, cat napping, or, if you have just a little more time, you can run off and get a quick manicure and pedicure.