3. Don’t let a man run your life.
It can be easy to go along for the ride where a guy’s assertiveness and his will, his strong willpower. Sometimes it’s just plain easier to go along to get along.
Now this happens on the first date or usually happens when he picks everything out, right? Like the wine, where you go to eat, he’ll pick the appetizer.
Just make sure you get your vote on these things and don’t start out with a bad pattern.
There’s something I want you to always remember.
The CEO of your life is you.
Don’t ever forget that.
There are a few places you want to set some boundaries to make sure that you don’t lose your way in your relationship.
1. Where’s his end zone?
The end zone in football is where each team is trying to take the football to score, right? And eventually, they want to win the game.
Well, you have to know up front that if he’s a guy who is just looking for a good time.
Is that his end zone?
Or is he looking for a relationship?
On the first date, you want to listen to the hints he drops in conversation.
If he starts talking sexually with you on the first date, well he’s probably testing you to see how far he can get on this date.
In this case, his end zone would be the bedroom at first.
Here’s another secret about guys that you won’t find anywhere else.
Men are always looking for a good time first and then a relationship if you turn out to be cool, fun and compatible with him.
Now, that doesn’t mean that’s how he wants the date to actually go.
He’s just testing you, remember?
You may think that all guys out there are commitment phobic. The way they act up front and then they kind of grow distant later on, you’ve had that happen maybe?
Well, you ask me, “Carlos, he’s just scared to commit, right?”
Sorry, I’m going to bust our game wide open for the ladies today.
It’s the one trick that guys use that works every single time. Women have been fed this lie for long enough.
Men actually like that women think that they are commitment-phobic because it gives him the excuse he needs to leave when the time is right when he realizes this might not be for him.
Remember this, guys are wired to commit to the woman that will unlock his heart by simply – all right, wait a minute, I’m going to get to more about this in a bit.
For now, just know that guys do commit but we do it differently than women do.
2. Keep it real.
One of the big mistakes that people make when they’re dating is they try to make the first few dates a romantic fantasy come true.
They make dates that just simply don’t resemble real life at all for those first few months. It’s like a romantic playground.
Now, guys are mostly guilty of this because they’re the ones who are planning.
But you should be the one who is watching out and setting this particular boundary because the woman gets attached to this first date fantasy land because it feels wonderfully romantic.