7 Ways You Ruin Your Relationship

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5. Withdraw

Start to spend less and less time with your partner, spending it alone or with other people, or in front of the TV. Convince yourself that your misery is completely your partner’s fault, and that you picked the wrong person, again.

NEVER EVER take any responsibility for your own feelings, needs, behavior and choices.

Never forget that you are the victim.

 

6. Get your partner into counseling

Seek counseling to get your partner to change. Do NOT enter counseling to deal with your own controlling behavior of being a taker or caretaker.

Rather, be sure to tell the therapist everything your partner does wrong, using the therapist’s office as just another arena to prove that you are right and your partner is wrong, or you are the good one and your partner is the bad one.

Above all, do NOT look within at yourself. After all, it is your partner who needs to do this, not you!

 

7. You did it!

Congratulations! You have succeeded in creating a terrible relationship!

Now you can miserably and righteously leave your partner and do the whole thing again! You get to complain to all your friends about what a terrible person your ex-partner is and get sympathy for all you’ve been though.




What a reward for all your hard work!

 

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