How To Fall in Love With Anyone

How To Fall in Love With Anyone

I wondered what would come of our interaction. If nothing else, I thought it would make a good story. But I see now that the story isn’t about us; it’s about what it means to bother to know someone, which is really a story about what it means to be known.

It’s true you can’t choose who loves you, although I’ve spent years hoping otherwise, and you can’t create romantic feelings based on convenience alone. Science tells us biology matters; our pheromones and hormones do a lot of work behind the scenes.

But despite all this, I’ve begun to think love is a more pliable thing than we make it out to be. Arthur Aron’s study taught me that it’s possible — simple, even — to generate trust and intimacy, the feelings love needs to thrive.

You’re probably wondering if he and I fell in love. Well, we did. Although it’s hard to credit the study entirely (it may have happened anyway), the study did give us a way into a relationship that feels deliberate. We spent weeks in the intimate space we created that night, waiting to see what it could become.

Love didn’t happen to us. We’re in love because we each made the choice to be.


How To Fall in Love With Anyone
How To Fall in Love With Anyone

12 thoughts on “How To Fall in Love With Anyone”

  1. The article is cute, the study, perhaps, more interesting. What is missing from the narrative is that, based on what I read, these two people were attracted to each other in the first place. So perhaps “anyone” is a bit of a stretch, it should be qualified with “anyone who you are appropriately attracted to and is also attracted to you.” I suspect that the study stated similar constraints more clearly.

    Don’t misunderstand me here, I do think that the basic idea is valid, that vulnerability and empathy are intrinsically linked with what we like to call “love”, I just have my doubts that this works well when other factors induce stronger feelings about another person.

    1. There is no guarantee that feelings will remain till long .. As due to many reasons … Circumstances … Faith…
      It’s some time illusion .. About unconditional Love

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