She could have done nothing (including having no anxiety about any of it) from a place of total security in her own irresistibility (best and what I teach inside my group coaching program Manifest True Love).
In the last position, she would have been at her most irresistible and he would have been at his most likely to be very attracted to her and ask her for a second date.
I’m not saying this to be hard on her or make either one of them into saintly beings with perfect dating behavior.
My point is to explain what happens when people let their anxiety take control of their dating situation.
Being in the feminine energy is great.
Being in masculine energy is great.
Being in anxiety is not.
A primarily masculine person in anxiety will be over-controlling and crush the feminine’s emotional processing, which will prevent her feelings for him from growing.
A feminine person in anxiety will lose faith and patience in their own attractiveness and irresistibility.
This woman’s behavior points to her wanting to be the feminine partner because she wants HIM to make a plan.
Doing and initiating and planning is inherently masculine energy.
There’s nothing wrong with her initiating as long as she wants to be the masculine partner.
And there’s nothing wrong with waiting for him to ask her back out (even if he never chooses to do so) if she wants to be in her feminine.
In this case, she’s doing neither one since she’s in anxiety.
Her statement gives away that she’s not able to respect his timing OR go all the way into her masculine and ask him back out.
Since he’s interested in being the masculine partner, he would be much more excited about the relationship if she let him pursue her.
Finding a way to ask to see him again might not be fatal either, since there are many ways to inspire a man to make a plan.
Or she could make one herself if she chooses to be in the masculine.
But passively aggressively nagging a man who has not decided to make a plan will not inspire his devotion.
All this approach did was make him completely resistant to even speaking to her ever again.
And sadly, she probably hoped to see him again. Otherwise she wouldn’t have brought it up.
Have you ever snapped at a man because you were worried he didn’t want you?
I know I have.
This is just one of the love blocks I cover in my 7 Blocks to Manifesting Love Masterclass which you can find here.
Written by: Elizabeth Stone
Originally appeared on: attracttheone.com and is republished here with permission.