I was truly tormented for decades. I became morbidly obese, sleep-deprived, and full of nervous symptoms like sciatica, persistent rosacea rashes across my face, and shingles.
Some of this may have originated from normal stress at work, others from my need to recharge alone, but most of my symptoms were due to always having to maintain a facade at work which, I thought, would promote myself amongst others.
How To Share Your Secret
This all may make sense to many of you. But how do you share such a private secret you’ve worked so hard to keep?
This is a deeply personal sharing. Come prepared. Learn more about your introversion, your strengths, and your style. This does not need to be broadcast to everyone. You may be selective with those that you feel will listen, understand, and reciprocate by building an authentic connection together.
This bond is so important. You have been hired to deliver on team goals and your manager is there to support your efforts. Sharing your introversion is a great place to start. You may share through a casual meeting, a routine catchup, an annual performance review, or a career planning session. Actually, I suggest you boldly share your story even earlier – during your job interview.
It’s an opportunity to display your own honesty and self-confidence. It’s a chance to share your strengths (planning, listening, teamwork, learning, loyalty, etc). You can also convey your conviction – that you can do any task presented through your own unique style. What a great message to share. And if the hiring manager doesn’t appreciate it, I say this is not the right situation for you. Isn’t it better to know now?
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2. Your team/staff
Whether you are a supervisor or not, sharing your introversion with your co-workers and staff is so powerful. You are imparting your courage, boldness, personality, and belief in self-development with your closest colleagues.
Introduce the topic as a personal sharing. Don’t offer this as a weakness or suggest that you are looking for pity or help. Instead, disclose that you are proud to be an introvert. Share your story – that you have learned a lot about your strengths and gaps. You will stand as an example, inviting them to do the same so that you can lean on each other, complement each other’s skills, and be prepared to succeed together.
Written By Steve Friedman Originally Appeared On Beyond Introversion