5 Proven Therapy Techniques That Can Help Improve Relationships

5 Proven Therapy Techniques That Can Help Improve Relationships

Building an emotionally healthy relationship depends on a lot of factors, and there are some techniques that can help you improve your relationships.

Strong, loving, and healthy relationships require a lot of work. Sure, you love each other, respect each other, and want to spend time together, but there’s much to be analyzed when you’re having issues. Being open and honest with each other, and using emotions as genuine information to guide how you function together are important tools in a relationship.

Here are five techniques to benefit your romantic relationship.

1. Interrupt the cycle of negativity

More often than not, couples have problems because they fall into a cycle that breeds negativity in some way. For example, a wife might come home stressed and say something snippy to her husband. This puts him in a bad mood and makes him not want to talk about his day. The wife, in turn, feels unwanted and annoying and worries that she and her husband can’t find common ground anymore.

But when we become aware of such a cycle, we can interrupt it. For example, maybe the wife can come home and go for a 10-minute walk to process her day, and not unleash what happened at the office on her husband.

Or, maybe the husband could practice being extremely empathetic when his wife first gets home since he has now recognized that this is a difficult transition for her, and she has a hard time dealing with the stress of her job as she tries to unwind. Identifying this cycle is half the battle to understanding your own relationship problems.

2. Explore each partner’s feelings

Beyond identifying negative cycles in your relationship, in order to properly mitigate and mediate the subsequent interactions, it’s important to explore each partner’s feelings related to that interaction cycle.

Now, this may sound like a cliché therapy term, “exploring your feelings,” but making assumptions about such feelings and not talking about it only feeds into the existing negative cycle you’ve been practicing that’s been causing you problems. Together you can then determine, as a team, what went wrong where, and how each person was feeling in each moment.

Related: 12 Important Life Hacks To Improve Communication In Your Relationships

3. Understand your own wants and needs

It’s almost impossible to have a successful relationship with another person without fully understanding yourself. Both partners involved in a relationship must understand their own wants and needs as individuals. It’s easy to get caught up in the “we” mentality of a relationship, but the fact of the matter is that we are our own independent people at our core.

We have individualized expectations, wants, and physical and emotional needs. Understanding what works for you in this way, and then communicating these needs to your partner, is an extremely healthy practice and may assist you in better understanding each other, and therefore treating each other in a way that promotes trust and emotional bonding, which we all know are the backbones of a great relationship.

4. Be supportive

Now this one is a little trickier depending on what your partner has identified as their personal wants and needs, but things will go more smoothly in the long run if you can accept your significant other’s emotional experience, and be supportive of them no matter what.

This may be difficult if some of their needs don’t match yours, or if fundamentally you have different goals, but finding a way to maximize both partners’ satisfaction in this way may aid your happiness as a couple.

In both experience and behavior, be supportive of what your partner wants, and do your best to help them achieve it by the way you treat them day in and day out. You love and respect this person, so why not love and respect what they need to be the best version of themselves?

Related: 7 Ways to Improve Your Relationship

5. Express your feelings

In order to really change the negative cycles that exist in a relationship, both partners need to learn to express their wants and needs in a way that their partner can digest, and in a way that won’t elicit any extreme emotions from their partner.

This may look different for various couples depending on their interaction styles, but this can be a lesson in learning to effectively communicate. Be honest with each other. Express how you feel as much as possible. Don’t make assumptions. Work especially hard to really listen to what your partner is trying to say.

Emotions are a critical part of our identity and personality, and they can and should be used as information to make informed decisions.

The above techniques all come from Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), an evidence-based treatment used to improve the quality of adult relationships. EFT focuses on exploring, understanding, and validating emotions within a relationship context.

The skills and techniques used in EFT can help the relationship function in the healthiest and most rewarding way possible for both partners.

Stay Manly,

Dr. Lukin

Visit Dr. Konstantin Lukin’s website for more such articles.


Written By Konstantin Lukin
Originally Appeared In Psychology Today

Having a strong, and happy relationship is desired by many, but you need to put in a lot of effort in order to have that. Everytime when you and your partner feel that you are hitting roadblocks when it comes to your relationship or having communication problems, remember these techniques which can greatly help improve your relationships. As long as you love and understand each other, nothing will be able to break you.

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Konstantin Lukin

Konstantin Lukin, Ph.D., is a licensed clinical psychologist who maintains a private practice in Ridgewood and Hoboken, NJ. He has extensive clinical and research experience spanning individuals of all ages, in both inpatient and outpatient settings. He specializes in men’s issues, couple’s counseling, and relationship problems. His therapeutic approach focuses on providing support and practical feedback to help patients effectively address personal challenges. He integrates complementary modalities and techniques to offer a personalized approach tailored to each patient. He has been trained in cognitive-behavioral, dialectical behavior, schema-focused, and emotionally focused therapy, and has also been involved with research projects throughout his career, including two National Institute of Mental Health-funded studies. He is a member of the Association for Behavioral and Cognitive Therapies, New Jersey Psychological Association, Northeast Counties Association of Psychologists, New York State Psychological Association, The International Centre for Excellence in Emotionally Focused Therapy, The New York Center for Emotionally Focused Therapy, the International OCD Foundation, and the Association for Contextual Behavioral Science (ACSB).

Disclaimer: The informational content on The Minds Journal have been created and reviewed by qualified mental health professionals. They are intended solely for educational and self-awareness purposes and should not be used as a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. If you are experiencing emotional distress or have concerns about your mental health, please seek help from a licensed mental health professional or healthcare provider.

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5 Proven Therapy Techniques That Can Help Improve Relationships

Building an emotionally healthy relationship depends on a lot of factors, and there are some techniques that can help you improve your relationships.

Strong, loving, and healthy relationships require a lot of work. Sure, you love each other, respect each other, and want to spend time together, but there’s much to be analyzed when you’re having issues. Being open and honest with each other, and using emotions as genuine information to guide how you function together are important tools in a relationship.

Here are five techniques to benefit your romantic relationship.

1. Interrupt the cycle of negativity

More often than not, couples have problems because they fall into a cycle that breeds negativity in some way. For example, a wife might come home stressed and say something snippy to her husband. This puts him in a bad mood and makes him not want to talk about his day. The wife, in turn, feels unwanted and annoying and worries that she and her husband can’t find common ground anymore.

But when we become aware of such a cycle, we can interrupt it. For example, maybe the wife can come home and go for a 10-minute walk to process her day, and not unleash what happened at the office on her husband.

Or, maybe the husband could practice being extremely empathetic when his wife first gets home since he has now recognized that this is a difficult transition for her, and she has a hard time dealing with the stress of her job as she tries to unwind. Identifying this cycle is half the battle to understanding your own relationship problems.

2. Explore each partner’s feelings

Beyond identifying negative cycles in your relationship, in order to properly mitigate and mediate the subsequent interactions, it’s important to explore each partner’s feelings related to that interaction cycle.

Now, this may sound like a cliché therapy term, “exploring your feelings,” but making assumptions about such feelings and not talking about it only feeds into the existing negative cycle you’ve been practicing that’s been causing you problems. Together you can then determine, as a team, what went wrong where, and how each person was feeling in each moment.

Related: 12 Important Life Hacks To Improve Communication In Your Relationships

3. Understand your own wants and needs

It’s almost impossible to have a successful relationship with another person without fully understanding yourself. Both partners involved in a relationship must understand their own wants and needs as individuals. It’s easy to get caught up in the “we” mentality of a relationship, but the fact of the matter is that we are our own independent people at our core.

We have individualized expectations, wants, and physical and emotional needs. Understanding what works for you in this way, and then communicating these needs to your partner, is an extremely healthy practice and may assist you in better understanding each other, and therefore treating each other in a way that promotes trust and emotional bonding, which we all know are the backbones of a great relationship.

4. Be supportive

Now this one is a little trickier depending on what your partner has identified as their personal wants and needs, but things will go more smoothly in the long run if you can accept your significant other’s emotional experience, and be supportive of them no matter what.

This may be difficult if some of their needs don’t match yours, or if fundamentally you have different goals, but finding a way to maximize both partners’ satisfaction in this way may aid your happiness as a couple.

In both experience and behavior, be supportive of what your partner wants, and do your best to help them achieve it by the way you treat them day in and day out. You love and respect this person, so why not love and respect what they need to be the best version of themselves?

Related: 7 Ways to Improve Your Relationship

5. Express your feelings

In order to really change the negative cycles that exist in a relationship, both partners need to learn to express their wants and needs in a way that their partner can digest, and in a way that won’t elicit any extreme emotions from their partner.

This may look different for various couples depending on their interaction styles, but this can be a lesson in learning to effectively communicate. Be honest with each other. Express how you feel as much as possible. Don’t make assumptions. Work especially hard to really listen to what your partner is trying to say.

Emotions are a critical part of our identity and personality, and they can and should be used as information to make informed decisions.

The above techniques all come from Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), an evidence-based treatment used to improve the quality of adult relationships. EFT focuses on exploring, understanding, and validating emotions within a relationship context.

The skills and techniques used in EFT can help the relationship function in the healthiest and most rewarding way possible for both partners.

Stay Manly,

Dr. Lukin

Visit Dr. Konstantin Lukin’s website for more such articles.


Written By Konstantin Lukin
Originally Appeared In Psychology Today

Having a strong, and happy relationship is desired by many, but you need to put in a lot of effort in order to have that. Everytime when you and your partner feel that you are hitting roadblocks when it comes to your relationship or having communication problems, remember these techniques which can greatly help improve your relationships. As long as you love and understand each other, nothing will be able to break you.

Therapy Techniques Improve Relationships Pin

Published On:

Last updated on:

Konstantin Lukin

Konstantin Lukin, Ph.D., is a licensed clinical psychologist who maintains a private practice in Ridgewood and Hoboken, NJ. He has extensive clinical and research experience spanning individuals of all ages, in both inpatient and outpatient settings. He specializes in men’s issues, couple’s counseling, and relationship problems. His therapeutic approach focuses on providing support and practical feedback to help patients effectively address personal challenges. He integrates complementary modalities and techniques to offer a personalized approach tailored to each patient. He has been trained in cognitive-behavioral, dialectical behavior, schema-focused, and emotionally focused therapy, and has also been involved with research projects throughout his career, including two National Institute of Mental Health-funded studies. He is a member of the Association for Behavioral and Cognitive Therapies, New Jersey Psychological Association, Northeast Counties Association of Psychologists, New York State Psychological Association, The International Centre for Excellence in Emotionally Focused Therapy, The New York Center for Emotionally Focused Therapy, the International OCD Foundation, and the Association for Contextual Behavioral Science (ACSB).

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