Unhappy in Your Marriage? Here’s What You Can Do About It.
When you are unhappy with your marriage, chances are you may be in a loveless marriage without being aware of it.
Loveless marriages are more common than you think, and there are a variety of solutions to ease the dilemma you may find yourself in. In this article, I will share insights on 3 critical signs of an unhappy marriage, what happens in a marriage without intimacy and whether you should stay in a marriage without love.
Sign 1 – You Question Whether Your Partner Still Loves You
Love is a very strong emotion. However, if you find yourself asking whether your partner loves you it indicates there is a problem in your marriage.
Emotional divides that make you question a partner’s love, can be caused by a lack of communication, conflicting values, sexual incompatibility or too much time focusing on the less than pleasing attributes of your partner.
Some women ask me whether their husbands love them during their consulting sessions. These women had already spent many hours discussing it with their female friends: “He does this and that, but he never tells me he loves me. Does he still love me?”
Males tend to communicate their love more through their actions rather than their words. If his partner then questions his love, it can make him feel unappreciated when he thinks he is showing his love via his actions.
If someone loves you in a relationship, you usually know it, as it is obvious by their actions and overall attitude toward you. However, when you question or doubt their love, it can put a wall of resistance between you which puts you both on the defensive. This can become a vicious cycle, where you constantly trigger each other and stop noticing the qualities you originally fell in love with.
How to cope with it?
Build an emotional connection and enhance feelings of attraction with your partner.
Yes, I know this is easier said than done. But it can definitely be achieved with the correct knowledge and technique.
Remember: you are 100% responsible for your life and the outcomes within it. You chose to date your partner; you decide how you interact with them; you made the decision to marry your spouse. These were your decisions.
Your choices are your responsibility, but it doesn’t mean you should blame yourself or your partner when things aren’t going as they should. You just need to make a few adjustments to how you are showing up within your relationship.
Your spouse is not responsible for your happiness. Only you are responsible for your happiness.
If you indulge in thoughts about being in a loveless marriage, you will continually trigger yourself emotionally and therefore feel unmotivated toward the very actions that would save your marriage.
Marriage is just one way to make your life happier, and that’s only when it is maintained with the right intentions and actions. How you maintain your marriage is up to you. It’s your responsibility to build a strong emotional connection with your partner and continue your efforts to enhance attraction over the lifetime of your relationship.
1. Start by Creating an Inviting Environment
First and foremost, create a more inviting environment for you and your partner. Pay attention to the way you think, act and dress.
Know that your thoughts will always directly influence how you feel. Start by changing your own thoughts, words, and actions from being negatively focused on being focused toward your ideal outcome and you will create a flow-on effect that directly influences your partner’s behavior.
I understand that your spouse plays a key role in your marriage, but you can only influence your spouse’s actions and feelings; you cannot control everything. In fact, being controlling is the fastest way to experiencing an unhappy and loveless marriage.
2. Stop Blaming Your Partner – and Inspire Them Instead
Stop blaming your partner for your lack of connection and take action steps each day to reignite attraction. As well as paying attention to how you look and feel, this includes lifting your partner up with appreciation and gratitude for their contribution.