What We’d Like Our Family Members To Know About

what wed like our family members to know about

What we’d like our family members to know about living with PTSD

Suggestions from Veterans who were involved in combat in the Vietnam War. Oklahoma City VA Medical Center, 2000

1. Give me space when I need to be alone – don’t overwhelm me with questions. I’ll come and talk to you when I’m ready.

2. Get away from me if I am out of control, threatening, or violent.

3. Be patient with me, especially when I’m irritable.

4. Don’t personalize my behavior when I explode or get quiet.

5. Learn and rehearse a time-out process.

6. Don’t patronize me or tell me what to do. Treat me with respect and include me in conversations and decision making,

7. Don’t pity me.

8. Don’t say ‘l understand when there are some things that you cannot understand.

9. Realize that I have unpredictable highs and lows – good and bad days.

10. Anticipate my anniversary dates – recognize that these could be tough times.

11. I’d like to share my traumatic experiences with you, but I fear overwhelming you and losing you.

12. I want to be close to you and share my feelings, but I’m afraid to, and sometimes I don’t know how to express my emotions.

13. I also fear your judgment.

14. Know that I still love and care about you, even if I act like a jerk sometimes.

15. Don’t ask me to go to crowded or noisy places because I’m uncomfortable in those settings.

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