I was 17 & I took a class called relationships for life & my teacher asked us, “is love a feeling? Or is it a choice?” We were all teenagers so naturally we said it was a feeling. She said that if we clung to that belief, we’d never have a lasting relationship of any sort. She made us interview a dozen adults who were or had been married & we asked them about their marriages & why it lasted or why it did not. I asked every single person if love was an emotion or a choice. Everybody said that it was a choice. It was a conscious commitment. It was something you choose to make work every day with a person who has chosen the same thing. They all said that at one point in their marriage, the “feeling of love” had vanished or faded & they weren’t happy. They said feelings are always changing & you cannot build something that will last on such a shaky foundation. The married ones said that when things were bad, they chose to open the communication, chose to identify what broke and how to fix it, and chose to recreate something worth falling in love with. The divorced ones said they chose to walk away. Ever since that class, since that project, I never looked at relationships the same way. I understood why arranged marriages were successful. I discovered the difference in feelings and commitments. I’ve never gone for the person who makes my heart flutter or my head spin. I’ve chosen the people who were committed to choosing me, dedicated to finding something to adore even on the ugliest days.
Imagine being in a relationship where you both update each other, keep things interesting, consistently do dates, communicate, and trust each other. Y’all stay obsessed with each other but still respect each other’s space.
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Please stop trying to get into relationships when you need therapy and an exorcism.
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