Loving a Libra means loving the very essence and beauty of love.
There is a perpetual tug-of-war—- and a delicate balance between feeling feisty and fierce and completely against feeling emotional, frail, and soft. Because she is eternally trying to build that impossible balance, she is never quite sure about who she truly is.
To compensate for the not-knowing she’ll please everyone around her. She’ll adjust with others at the cost of her own happiness, and rectify situations until you hate her for it; but, when you love a Libra, you will see that her sacrifices, no matter how devastating, are the only way she knows how to love. Her bleeding heart is how she finds her place in a world that can be unkind; it’s the way she can claim some shred of control—she believes that kindness is what matters most.
A Libra will always want you to and need you to push her toward taking care of herself. She’ll never choose her needs first, so you’ll have to teach her this craft. You’ll need to teach her that putting her needs before others is not the same as selfishness because she sees selfishness as ugly.
She is scared of ugliness. She hates loneliness.
She gets her heart broken a lot. Her heart will feel sad and lonely about so many things, but if you choose to love a Libra, you must never break her heart completely.
To capture Libra’s heart is to capture her heart forever. There are no partners more attentive, more committed than your Libra. You mustn’t ever take her for granted though; for Libra’s heart will grow uneasy when neglected, her heart will close and you risk never finding your way in again.
A Libra’s heart knows the secret to everything. That is why you need to protect it.
Sometimes she might feel lost. She’ll want to watch black-and-white movies, look forward to having hot tea and blankets, and simply no conversation. Sometimes, she’ll want people around her, because she has a hard time with loneliness. Midnight walks, parties, and deep, philosophical conversations—she likes science, literature, and philosophy the best. She loves whiskey too.
She will need to be constantly reminded that she is loved—better yet, adored. She needs a lot of mindful smothering of love, she needs excitement and adventure. A Libra wants independence, but can’t stand the thought of isolation or loneliness. Accept her even when she is a contradiction.
She will need decisiveness in her life from you, as she has none of it in herself. She is spontaneous and you will be surprised by the commitment she shows. But if she has time to think, any decision will be painful—be it where to eat, what to wear or who to love. This will frustrate you, but you must try to understand. For her, there is no such thing as an obvious choice.
Libra loves the idea of love itself. She loves everything about love: the ecstasy, the discovery, the connection, the heartache, and the very idea of love. She craves the security and safety that comes with partnership and commitment, but at the same time, the uncertainties of love excite her to no end.
She sees the good in every person, but when it comes to her lover, she looks for humor and intelligence. Because for her there is nothing bigger and more desirable than wit.
She hates conflict because it makes her feel exposed and vulnerable; but to love her is not to worry too much, because she believes in trust and forgiveness—two virtues that are enough to repair almost any hurt caused to her. When you lock horns with a Libra, she’ll be sure that every conflict she has with you will end everything and this will ruin her a little. During times like this, you must remind her that every argument is an opportunity for growth—it is the beginning of a new everything.