10. You lose your vision of the future that wasn’t playing out as you had hoped.
There is light at the end of the tunnel, even when you can’t see it yet. One day, you will wake up feeling like yourself again.
Sometimes the loss of the hopes and dreams you once had feels overwhelming. One client said she had to let go of the old hopes and dreams in order to allow new ones to come to her. Time can heal this wound, as you come to accept your new reality. You begin to think that the future doesn’t look so terrible, you forgive yourself and your ex, and begin to move on.
The losses you experience in divorce are unique to you. If you can acknowledge them, you are taking the first step toward healing. There is light at the end of the tunnel, but sometimes the tunnel is long and twisty, and you can’t see the light yet.
You can journal or express yourself in other ways, and seek counseling if you feel stuck. Life will get better.
© Ann Buscho, Ph.D. 2019
Ann Buscho, Ph.D. is a clinical psychologist specializing in divorce-related issues and the author of The Parent’s Guide to Birdnesting, A Child-Centered Solution to Co-Parenting During Separation and Divorce. See more at www.drannbuscho.com
Written By Ann Gold Buscho Originally Appeared In Psychology Today