6. Don’t make a bad decision when you are emotionally compromised.
Remember the scene in Star Trek (2009) when Spock gets into a fight with Kirk, and then steps down from his command? The reason was that he was “emotionally compromised.” He knew that his emotions would prevent him from making good decisions as a commander.
When you’re feeling hurt and rejected, it’s tempting to seek out acceptance and validation from another opportunity, whether it’s the right one or not. It’s also tempting to engage in self-destructive behavior to mask our pain.
Neither course of action is good. When you feel “emotionally compromised” after being rejected, just lay low, take stock of where you are and don’t make any rash decisions.
7. Save your venting for your journal, not social media.
This should go without saying, but I’ve seen too many people make a fool out of themselves on social media because they were angry about something.
There are a whole bunch of reasons to not criticize someone (or an organization) on social media. You can burn bridges, damage relationships, and make yourself look bad in the process.
When you’re upset or angry, you need to vent somewhere. I recommend a journal, where you can keep your thoughts private.
8. Be thankful for what you have learned about yourself.
In my particular situation, I had to face the question, “Why do I really want this opportunity?” At first, I was caught up in the excitement and thought that I truly wanted it.
But when it came right down to it, I was more drawn to the excitement rather than the work itself. Deep down in my heart, it wasn’t truly what I wanted.
In the end, that means the people who rejected me actually did me a favor … for which I’m grateful. It forced me to think about what I truly wanted.
9. Pray for those who have rejected you.
Ever since I first talked to my friend who about the opportunity, I had been praying for God’s guidance. I had to trust that God would use my friend to show me the way.
This means that both of us were actually co-laborers in God’s kingdom, both trying to follow His leading. We both ultimately want the same thing.
What does this mean? In addition to praying for myself, I should pray for those who are deciding whether to accept or reject me. I should pray that we both hear God’s voice and are obedient to what we hear.
Seeking God’s guidance
Let me be totally honest with you. I’m an intelligent person who can make good decisions most of the time. But I have recently started to understand that I can’t figure this out on my own.
For the first time in my adult life, I have started to hit the limits of my own wisdom. I am relying less on my own insight, and more on a childlike faith in God’s guidance.
If you’re making decisions about opportunities, whether big or small, I encourage you to ask God for guidance. In my experience, God gives us wisdom when we ask for it. But His guidance and wisdom often come to us in a way that we don’t expect.
So let go … trust … and don’t get discouraged by rejection. It might just be God’s way of guiding you to something better.
What have you learned from being rejected?
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Written by Kent Sanders
Originally appeared on Kent Sanders.net
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