How To End An Affair With A Married Man? A 5-Step Plan To Stop Being The Mistress And Finally Walk Away

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A 5-Step Plan To End An Affair With A Married Man

Breaking off an affair with a married man is not a very easy thing to do, but after a point definitely necessary. So, how can you end an affair with a married man for good, and walk away towards a better life and a healthier relationship?

It’s time to move on and find a real relationship.

No one sets out to be “the other woman.” True, some women may set out to have an affair or a fling with a married man; however, most will avoid intentionally falling in love with a married man.

Despite the best of intentions, you may suddenly realize one day that the “casual” fling has turned into a full-blown love affair. Whether the love affair is mutual or one-sided, being in love with a married man rarely works out in your favor in the end. In fact, it often brings on nothing but pain and heartache.

Knowing that and doing something to change it are often two different things. Learning how to end an affair with a married man is harder to do than with a single man, for a variety of reasons. The good news is that it can be done by employing a few hardcore tactics.

There are a number of psychological and practical reasons why falling out of love with a married man is frequently more complicated than with an available man.

Related: How To End An Affair With A Married Man​ For Good

Often, a married man spends a considerable amount of money on his “mistress,” whether in the form of lavish gifts or straight-out support; giving up that aspect of the affair can be difficult.

When you end a marriage or long-term relationship with a man, you typically divide the assets and walk away with something; however, when you end a relationship with a married man, you walk away completely empty-handed in most cases.

Falling out of love with an available man generally happens because the relationship has simply run its course, or because he did something that changed how you feel about him. Ironically, that something is often cheating behavior.

With a married man, you only see him at his best for short periods of time. You don’t spend enough time with him to get bored of him, and the relationship never really gets out of the “honeymoon” phase. It’s a constant rush of endorphins and adrenaline — so hard to resist.

As a result, it doesn’t run a “normal course,” so to speak. In addition, since you have already accepted infidelity from him, which is generally considered one of the worst relationship “crimes,” he is unlikely to do anything that angers you enough to cause you to fall out of love.

Once you have decided that continuing the relationship with your married man is only going to bring you heartache in the end and that the relationship is unlikely to end without you taking affirmative action, it is time to do something about it.

Here’s how to end an affair with a married man​ for good and reclaim your life.

A 5-Step Plan To End An Affair With A Married Man

1. Find a distraction

One option is to fall in love with another man, preferably a single and available one. Interestingly, many women who become involved with a married man are surprisingly faithful to him.

Even if you are inherently faithful, the bottom line is that he is not being faithful to you and you owe him no loyalty. Get out and open yourself up to other possibilities.

Ending a relationship when you are still in love with someone is hard to do, but it can be easier if you can open yourself up to another relationship, or at least the possibility of a hot, sexy distraction.

End an affair with a married man
How To End An Affair With A Married Man? A 5-Step Plan To Stop Being The Mistress And Finally Walk Away

2. Up the ante on the financial front

If you have never actually asked for money or gifts, start asking. If you do typically ask, ask for more.

While he may acquiesce, to begin with, he will eventually get irritated with your requests, leading to a rift in the relationship. In the meantime, stash the money or gifts in case you are left financially worse off when the relationship finally ends.

Related: 5 Reasons Why Dating A Married Man Will Only Lead To Heartbreak

3. Spend more time together

Another tactic to employ, when possible, is to push for more time with your married man. Extended periods of time together are even better.

When you only see someone for brief periods of time, they only show you their best side. Try spending a few days with him and you might be surprised at what you see.

Let those little things irritate you and don’t hold back when you find yourself disagreeing with him. Although picking a fight might be going too far, don’t avoid one either.

4. Let it all hang out

Let your bad side show as well. As he has likely only shown you his good side, you have probably done the same. Now is the time to let loose — complain, cry, yell, and develop expectations.

In short, act as though this is a normal relationship. You will likely be surprised at how quickly Mr. Wonderful loses his halo and you start to wonder why you ever fell in love with him in the first place.

Related: How To Stick To Your New Year’s Resolution To Leave Your Married Man

5. Love yourself instead

Finally, and most importantly, fall in love with yourself. Ask yourself why you accept the “breadcrumbs” thrown to you by this person. Remind yourself that you deserve love and that you are worthy of a real and loving relationship.

Want to know more about how to end an affair with a married man? Check this video out below!

How to break off an affair with a married man

Written By Dr. Marni Feuerman
Originally Appeared On Dr. Marni Online

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    Phoenix

    This article is totally gross. Terrible advice. If you are having an affair with a married man, you are a piece of shit. Walk away- you have nothing invested. It’s easy, there you go.

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