Children and teens that are bullied often feel beat down and powerless. Empower your child by asking her what she’d like to do about the bullying. “Do you want to talk to a teacher, counselor, or the principal about the kids that are bullying you?” It is important for children and young adults to feel empowered to handle issues themselves.
She will feel better in the long run if she is able to have a plan and feels empowered to complete the plan. After your child has created and shared her plan for moving forward, encourage her to practice carrying it out through role play.
Once a plan has been established, it’s very important for you to regularly check in with your child to help her stay empowered and to help increase her self-esteem. You can ask questions such as “Did you talk to the school counselor today about the bullying?” Even if your child wants to handle the whole thing, you must make sure that you are committed to stepping in if her safety or well-being is at risk.
You can also engage the school, to make sure they are involved in keeping your child safe. Open communication with your child is essential. If you do need to involve others, be sure to tell her.
Empathy, empowerment, and engagement can help your child overcome and begin to heal from the bullying. It can also help your child not give the bullies the reactions that they’re seeking. The Empowered Child book provides more information and examples of how you can use The Three E’s to help your child.
If your child continues to seem depressed and/or the bullying is unable to be resolved, it’s important to seek professional help to address these issues and develop strategies to address the bullying.
Written By Danielle Matthew
Originally Appeared In Empowerment Space