You look at yourself and see them.
So even after goodbye, they are a ghost that haunts you, turning you into your own worst enemy.
Walking away isn’t the hardest part it’s reteaching yourself what you deserve in a relationship.
It’s learning to forgive someone who will never say sorry but also learning to forgive yourself for letting the relationship linger.
It’s learning who you are at your worst and making a choice to never be that weak or vulnerable again and allow someone to control you as they did.
It’s repeating over and over again good things about yourself when the voice the one on repeat says something negative. It’s being able to distinguish whose voice that really is.
Love isn’t controlled. Love isn’t manipulation. Love isn’t blackmailed. Love is not being someone’s property. Love is not taking all the blame. Love is not being someone’s punching bag. Love is not circles you run in. Love is not liking only half of one person and tolerating the bad sides of who you are. Love does not criticize you. Love does tear you down to build themselves up. Love does not need I’m sorry, I still love you after tearing you apart.
You learn about the love you want. You learn about the love you need. You learn that this will never happen again.
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Toxic relationships destroy you from the inside out but a toxic relationship doesn’t mean that’s all that’s in store for you.
Healing from toxic relationships starts with taking responsibility for your own actions but also understanding you aren’t responsible for someone else’s.
It’s not your fault.
When you realize that, your relationships change.
You’ll meet someone good and kind and genuine you might not believe it at first but there’s something about the person who pulls you in when you are afraid to get close to anyone, there’s something about the person who teaches you, you didn’t deserve any of this and I’m going to be the exception.
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Trusting someone again after a toxic relationship is always hard, but if you shut yourself off forever, the toxic person will win. You are not the bad one here, they are. So, take one step at a time, and learn to open your heart again, so that the kind of person you actually deserve can come into your life, and love you the way you deserve to be loved.
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