5 Situations When Divorce Is The Best Parenting Decision You Can Make

Staying together for the kids doesn’t work.

There are plenty of good reasons for couples to stay together and work things out when times are tough. After all, having a healthy marriage isn’t always easy, and it takes the concerted effort of both parties daily.

Deciding to end your marriage is a big one when there is no question that divorce is hard on kids. It has the potential to shatter their confidence, make them feel insecure, and negatively affect their romantic choices in the future.

The damage can be especially harsh when there are broken promises, financial hardships, legal battles, and emotional tug of wars between parents.

So, why would any good mother or father entertain splitting up a family and potentially threatening their children’s healthy development?

Because there are times when divorce is simply better for your child than staying together ever could be.

Many of the negative impacts are dependent on factors like the age of the children, how they learn about the divorce, and their unique personality – as well as the nature of support they get through the adjustment period. Young children are extraordinarily resilient, and they can learn to cope – even flourish – after a painful divorce.

A divorce doesn’t have to ruin your children, but an unstable, unhealthy one will.

Children deserve to grow up in a home that’s free from chaos and harm, and full of love – even if that love primarily comes from one parent. And, being a responsible parent means making tough decisions that will positively affect their future. If one parent doesn’t have the children’s best well-being top of mind, they are too embroiled in their drama, or discord has escalated to the point of no return, the responsible party may decide they need to leave the marriage.


Here are 5 specific situations that warrant a marital break-up/ divorce especially for the good of the children:

1. Concerns about physical safety

If you have fears about your child’s physical safety in the presence of your partners, such as young children left unattended or home alone, smoking in the house, or exposure to drugs or alcohol, access to weapons, or something otherwise putting your child in harm’s way, listen to them. Trust your instincts. Splitting up may be your only way to keep your kids safe.


2. Physical abuse

According to the National Domestic Violence Hotline, every minute, there are 24 victims of abuse by an intimate partner, and a child witnessed violence in 22% of intimate partner violence cases filed in court. When a child witnesses physical abuse, they can become just as scarred as the victim, confused, full of self-blame, and with an increased likelihood of being abused themselves – or becoming an abuser. If your spouse is hitting you or physically threatening you in some way, you can’t let this continue. Apologies and promises are often empty. Without professional help, something will inevitably trigger another episode, and the behavior will likely escalate.

Don’t let your kids get caught in the crossfire. Protect yourself. Protect your kids.


3. Emotional abuse

There is any number of abusing tactics that a spouse can unleash on the other. These may include:

  • Calling you names or patronizing you
  • Constantly criticizing you
  • Belittling you, putting you down or making jokes at your expense
  • Gaslighting you or making untrue accusations
  • Public or private shaming
  • Withholding affection, access to people or things, or financial support
  • Isolating from family members and friends, or shutting down and shutting you out
  • Controlling or manipulative behaviors
  • Making threats

If your partner isn’t willing to acknowledge or accept responsibility for their behavior and get help, the only thing you can do is help yourself and help your kids. Shield them from witnessing this type of abuse and learning your spouse’s harmful ways.

Lisa Petsinishttps://www.lisapetsinis.com
Lisa Petsinis is a certified coach who works with people who want to bring their best self to their work, relationships, and life. She's on a mission to create more confidence, hope, joy, and success.  The key is self-awareness, and she uses a strength-based approach, visioning, mindfulness, and tools like and MBTI® to help clients uncover their brilliance. People say that it's the thoughtfulness, insight, empathy, and care that she brings to each situation that makes the difference. Visit her website to read more of her articles, sign up for her newsletter, or contact Lisa to learn if coaching is right for you. Transform your life, starting today.


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