Marketing expert, Seth Godin, even after publishing a dozen best sellers, wrote in “The Icarus Deception” that he still feels like a fraud. American presidents, artists, singers and countless actors have repeatedly described the same sensation. Writing a book. Creating a sculpture. Raising a child. Being a coach or embracing a new career. When we have a natural skill or talent, we tend to discount its value. Match this with a natural sense of humility and it moves into the space of paralyzing fear with the assumption that what’s natural, maybe even easy for us, can’t offer any value to the world. But after spending a lot of time fine-tuning our ability, isn’t it sort of the point for our skill to look and feel natural? All of this leads to the final and most important step: learning how to live with the impostor syndrome.
I’ve married a love deep within myself, and when fully expressed, it’s divorced so my art can live as own thing, allowing me to be something – someone -separate from it. Go get married to your art, fully partner with it. Then, divorce the creation right there, leaving it standing alone in the isle as you walk away. (Mic drop. Crowds gasp.) This impostor syndrome will never fully go away, but you can think of it as a classic poser. When you hear that voice in your head, take a deep breath, give a brief pause and with a rocking smile say, “You’re not invited to my tea party.” Now, let’s get to work. ~Robin