8 Signs Your Relationship Has What It Takes To LAST

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Everyone relationship is different, and every couple is different. But one thing that every couple probably has in common is that all of them want their relationships to last. Does your relationship have what it takes to last?




Will your love make it for the long haul?

Health. We all think about it, especially as we age. We visit the doctor, we eat right (at least, sometimes), we Google our symptoms, and then fret when the results inevitably tell us weโ€™re dying. 



But when we think about health, we do so only as it relates to our bodies. We often forget to think about health in terms of romantic relationships.

Just as physical health prolongs life, tending to the health of a relationship also extends a union.

To put it simply, a relationship that is unhealthy wonโ€™t last, or, at least, it shouldnโ€™t last! 




But what is a healthy relationship, exactly? How do we know if our relationship can survive the long haul? Or, whether itโ€™s so sick that we should consider putting it out to pasture? How do you know if youโ€™re with the wrong guy or with someone whoโ€™s your futureโ€™s cornerstone?

Thereโ€™s no medical test to rely on, no temperature that gages whether a relationship is hot or has cooled down to hypothermic levels.

Luckily, these eight signs are all that you need to determine the health of your relationship:

1. Your boyfriend believes in you and you believe in him. 

He talks to that part of you that you forget exists when you doubt yourself. He reminds you who you are. He has a clear vision of your potential, and actively nurtures it into existence.

Likewise, you donโ€™t talk about him behind his back. You donโ€™t complain to your girlfriends about him in a way you wouldnโ€™t say to his face. You donโ€™t post his shortcomings on social media. You believe he is a whole and complete person who solves his own problems and stands on his own two feet, even if you arenโ€™t there to support him.

2. You trust him. 

You trust him to stay true to his word. Youโ€™re not constantly anticipating him falling through on his promises. You donโ€™t anticipate or compensate with different actions for his lack of perceived responsibility. And if he does break a promise, you donโ€™t hold it over his head (and heโ€™s not doing that to you). You donโ€™t hack into his social media accounts or check his text messages.




Related: The Main Traits Of A Loving, Long Lasting Relationship

3. You accept his past and he accepts yours.

Regardless of who he was, how many women heโ€™s been with, or his upbringing โ€” you donโ€™t hold his past against him. You naturally allow him to reinvent himself and grow with you. You promise to never think you know everything about him and instead swear to approach each day with the curiosity of who heโ€™s becoming. Your relationship is the total package (forgiveness and letting go of the past are NOT sold separately).

4. Youโ€™re grateful for the good things you have with him. 

You appreciate the little things he does for you. Youโ€™re not hoping things will get better. Youโ€™re not waiting for the new job, for the salary bump, for the move to a different city, or for the next trip to improve things. Youโ€™re grateful for what you have right now with your partner.

Youโ€™re happy in the moment and not playing the dangerous game of โ€œif onlyโ€ (โ€œIf only he starts making more money,โ€ or โ€œif only he didnโ€™t work so much.โ€) Youโ€™re not rushing things either. Youโ€™re focused on the journey, not the destination. Marriage, a baby, an anniversary โ€” youโ€™re content with them happening naturally.

5. Thereโ€™s open and clear communication between the two of you.

There arenโ€™t any โ€˜off-limitโ€™ topics that force either of you into passive-aggressive behavior and irrational blow-ups. Youโ€™re straight with one another. You wear your heart on your sleeve and so does he. You donโ€™t struggle for power or control in the relationship; itโ€™s not a union composed of games.

In fact, you relinquish power because you know that gets in the way of love. You know there will be hard times โ€” youโ€™re not expecting a relationship merely made up of sessions singing โ€œKumbaya,โ€ but youโ€™re comfortable communicating with each other in a way that doesnโ€™t cause the other person to feel attacked, criticized, or blamed.

Related: 5 Simple Rules That Make a Relationship Last




6. Your sex life continues to get deeper and richer.

Even when it plateaus at times, the act of coming together brings more life, intimacy, and closeness into your partnership. Your sex life is a priority, with each of you continuing to nurture one anotherโ€™s physical needs in the hopes of increasing the depth and richness of your relationship.

7. You deeply respect him and he deeply respects you.

You honor each otherโ€™s boundaries and encourage each other to pursue passions and dreams. If you love dancing, he encourages you to do it. If you love traveling and he doesnโ€™t, he encourages you to do it with friends. You donโ€™t expect him to fulfill all of your emotional needs, which is why you have relationships with PEOPLE (friends, family, etc.) and not just one PERSON.

You meet some of your emotional needs through others and he isnโ€™t threatened by this. Heโ€™s the most important person in your life, but not the only important person. He never makes you feel invalidated, foolish, or needy.

8. Your core values match up to his.

You donโ€™t feel like youโ€™re constantly trying to change him or compromising yourself to stay with him. You donโ€™t view him as a fixer-upper or a starter boyfriend. Instead, he is who he is and what you want and your core values jive. Your answers coincide with important questions. (Do you want children? Do you value travel? Do you have a thirst for new experiences? Do you agree on financial matters? Are the things that make you happy similar? Do you want to live in the same area?)

Related: Lasting relationships come down to 2 basic Traits




The health of your relationship is vital to your existence as a couple, but thereโ€™s no test you can take to determine its wellness. Only you and your partner know if your relationship has the life expectancy of a fruit fly or an ancient tortoise. Only you hold the answer to the question: Is this a healthy relationship? Still, the eight signs written above can help you determine whether your love will last forever or merely linger for a few months that feel like forever.

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Written by Clayton Olson
Originally appeared on Yourtango.com
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