4 Types of Relationships We Encounter In Our Lifetime

4 Types of Relationships We Encounter in Our Lifetime; Only One Lasts Forever

Types of relationships

The biggest obstacle to a relationship is trying to get into a relationship. 

The modern dating is more about trying to catch a fish and impress it! Most people are socially desperate about finding a ‘compatible‘ partner for themselves. But a genuine connection doesn’t work that way. You meet each other in a setup, interview each other, try to impress each other, and force each other to feel attraction. These ultimately leave both of them wondering “Will this go anywhere?”

Consider another situation where a person simply spends time honestly connecting to other people. Sometimes it ends up in friendship and the other times it might end up in an authentic connection. These people do not try hard. They simply connect without wondering ‘whats’, ‘whys’ and ‘wheres’ of the situation.

A relationship is often bound by rules, compromises, promises, and sacrifices. But a connection surpasses everything. A connection has no commitment, no rules and no expectation of tomorrow. A connection happens at a spiritual level, where the existence of bodily attraction is also not mandatory. 

While there are four different kinds of connectedness – four possible corners of our relational space – only one of them will help you thrive. The other three corners will hamper your well-being.

They can even destroy your vision, your ambition, your positivity, your other relationships, your performance, your health and drag you down in life. The key is to get out of any of the other three and into the only one that works.

Think of this dynamic as the geometry of relationships, a square with four corners:

Corner 1: Disconnection, No Connection

Corner 2: The Bad Connection

Corner 3: The Pseudo-Good Connection

Corner 4: True Connection

Here are the 4 Types of relationship we encounter in our lifetime:

1. Disconnection

Some people never really build a connection with anyone, in the true sense of the term. This does not mean that they do no socialize. They do interact and communicate in a social, professional and personal level, but their interactions are not profound enough to form an authentic connection.

They are closed off about their thoughts, feelings, values, and ideas. They don’t share their feelings, ideas or plans. Mostly, these people have rigid personal boundaries that they won’t let others break.

You may try your best to connect with these people by trying to understand me, empathize with them but they just won’t let you in. They make other people feel unheard, unwanted and devalued.

2. The Bad Connection

Some people just don’t make you feel good enough. They are not necessarily overtly abusive but are might as well be subtly abusing you. These people are always finding faults in others and hence never values the relationship they form with anyone for that matter.

For them, anything their partner does is not sufficient, to the mark, or enough. These type of connection will drain your positive energy to the point of you giving up on trying. 

This person has a magical power to make you feel bad, as though everything you have ever done is wrong. In such a relationship, you constantly keep being defensive. You never get the reaction you need from them, even when you approach in the best way.

Read 4 Toxic Behaviors That Are Ruining Your Relationship

3. The Pseudo Connection

Some relationships can feel like good connections, but you notice that something is missing.

The people who we have this type of connection might make us temporarily feel good about us, but your intuition tells that something is not quite good.

You do spend time with these people, go out to eat, try to connect but ultimately never feel complete enough in the connection.

You might feel like these people genuinely care for you and understand you, but when you need these people to be there for you, you find them gone.

4. True connection

It is a true, fulfilling and spiritual connection that we all seek.

When the connection is true, the other person will make you feel whole, they hold you accountable, and they allow you to hold them accountable.

With these people, you do not need to be fake. They accept you as you are. You bring your heart, mind, soul, and passion to these relationships and you get those same things in return from the other person. Both people in this relationship give their mind, soul, spirit, time, an effort for the growth of the relationship. 

Read The Choices of Connection: How To Make Your Relationship Meaningful

However prized a relationship might be for you if it does not serve the purpose of personal and spiritual growth, you should abandon it.

You can always choose yourself before you choose an abusive relationship. 


Cynthia Evans

Cynthia Evans is an intuitive spiritual blogger, enlightening and empowering people with her blogs on spirituality, energy work, self-love, spiritual wellness, healing, mindfulness, self-development and so on. She enjoys helping people to achieve their greatest dreams and ambitions by sharing valuable tips based on personal experiences.View Author posts